(pobox1880)
Fed Up TIF

I think I hit peak trans when I saw someone say that TIMs should be allowed to feel uncomfortable around and avoid TIFs but the other way around is "transmisogyny". How are we any kind of threat to them? Why should they be allowed to avoid us but we can't do the same when we feel uncomfortable with them?

I have severe body dysphoria that I struggle with every day but I am sick and tired of people coddling TIMs who tower over me in size and strength and could probably snap my neck. I also disagree with the idea that there's no such a thing as female or male socialization. Obviously people who were raised a certain way will think that way. It's not rocket science. I know that I was raised to be a perfect daughter and fed every line in the book about how to act and behave long before I came to identify as trans. It's bullsh*t.

I'm just fed up. :/ Sorry if this comes across as stupid or something. I just needed a place to vent without being fed to the wolves.

(stellarmoth)
I used to babysit frequently and ever since I learned about female and male socialization I'd see it absolutely everywhere, even from the most "progressive" of families. The most obvious example being a girl whose parents held her behavior to a much higher standard than her brother's, who was free to be loud and roughhouse much of the time.

A lot of trans seem to believe that TIMs should be in female prisons, if only for their own safety (nevermind that of real women, who don't matter apparently). Ask them if they think TIFs belong in male prisons and that's when they suddenly realize that women are put in danger by the opposite sex, regardless of gender identity. That is not to say that I think TIMs are safe in male spaces, but rather that they can't identify out of the threat they pose to women any more than a TIF can identify out of sex based oppression.

It's a really obvious double standard.

I'm sorry things are tough for you right now and I hope you have a better day soon.