(=Justifying Amber Heard's abuse of Johnny Depp, such as hitting him, cutting off his finer and defecating in his bed, etc=)
Sometimes victims of physical abuse fight back or lash out against their abuser. Sometimes them fighting back isn’t in immediate self-defense, I.E. they’re not being violently assaulted in that moment. They’re fighting back against the “cycle” of violence and control and fear and general terror (and yes, anger, a lot of victims are angry at their abuser, strangely enough/s ) that the abuser is putting them through.
This, fighting back or lashing out against the abuser does NOT mean that the victim was the real abuser all along, and it does NOT mean that the relationship is “mutually abusive.”
To put it into perspective, I hope, consider this.
An emotionally abusive relationship.
Partner A is constantly demeaning Partner B, insulting their appearance, belittling their intelligence and accomplishments, making decisions for them, calling them names, gaslighting them, etc etc.
at one point, after this has been a constant issue, Partner B says to Partner A: “God, you’re such an asshole!” This obviously does not mean Partner B is the emotional abuser, and it does not mean the relationship is mutually emotionally abusive.
(=comments under her post=)
analuciacortez: but people want to ignore the video of him hitting things, the texts, the restraining order amber got against him, how he tried to attack a crew member in 2018, the fact that his currect girlfriend is like half his age, and every single shady thing he’s done
analuciacortez: @nocakesformissedith right. and then there’s the whole “oh, but his ex wife, winona ryder and penelope cruz said he’s a good guy who never hurt them!!”… and?? unless they are chained to him, they have no way of knowing what his relationship with amber is like. that whole “he didn’t do anything to me so he’s innocent” mentality doesn’t work. my dad is a saint to his friends and then he comes home and treats me and my mom like shit.
nocakesformissedith: @analuciacortez yes, it’s so frustrating, it seems like most people think amber was the abuser. The leaked audio tape was taken out of context, in the clip where amber admits to “hitting” Depp she also claims it was in self defense, and there are AT LEAST three instances where Depp admits to or Amber accused him of being violent towards her (which he does not deny) and yet no one talked about that