[Brutal] Woman goes to japan, gets ignored by men for months, tries the "be confident" approach and more
This article is absolutely gold. So much cope, so much anguish, so many failed bluepilled tactics.
I had something that the competition didn’t: long, naturally curly, blond hair. Furthermore, I was bilingual, well-traveled and college-educated.
But as I realized a few weeks into my stay in Japan, I was also mysteriously, frustratingly invisible.
Cute baristas at Starbucks wouldn’t look at me, business men on bicycles ran over me and college students hurriedly backed away from me with mumbled apologies whenever I tried to strike up a conversation about the weather or ask for directions. They wouldn’t even give me the time of day. Literally.
Just have a great personality, cool hobbies and interesting things to say!! But in reality if people aren't interested in you, they won't try to get to know you. It's like applying at a place that isn't hiring. They don't even wanna hear it.
“You’ve got to be assertive,” my Japanese girlfriends advised. “Japanese guys are shy so you have to make the first move.” So I smiled invitingly at men in bars and on busses. I asked for help reading restaurant menus and subway signs.
JUST BE CONFIDENT BRO, JUST SMILE MORE
“Do you have any book / drink reccomendatioins?” was my usual line as I stood near them in bookstores or sat next to them on barstools. But the ‘come hither’ stare or conversation starter doesn’t work if the other person refuses to look at you. If they met my gaze at me at all, it was just to shoot me this panicked look, like I’d just asked them to father my unborn children. My boss had been right. It was hard to be a single, western woman in Japan. But why?
Jfl they wouldn't even look at her. Sounds familiar to anyone?
The pervading theory though, among expats and Japanese alike, was that Japanese men were in fact attracted to western women but were just too intimidated to do anything about it. Western women in Asia were like the Jennifer Anistons of the expat world. Strong, independent, assertive and outspoken, they were interesting to admire from afar, but no man would ever dream of striking up a conversation with one. Western women were so different, so foreign, they were virtually un-datable.
The level of cope. She thinks she's a goddess or a supermodel in the eyes of the men who avoid her like the plague
Strong delusions, I've never heard incels say they're "too good looking for sex/dates". She says this as she's living in a country that considers single women older than 26 to be unwanted, spoiled, rotten and useless (google "christmas cake japan")
Not true for their Y-chromosome-carrying expat buddies though. While the female expats spent Saturday nights alone, crying into their Ramen bowls, their male counterparts drank freely from the dating pool like they owned it. Which in a way, they did.
Lifefuel if that's true. tho prolly just betabuxxing. There are many more paragraphs of her talking about expats slaying if you're interested, i won't put it all here
I was walking from work one Friday evening when it dawned on me that I’d been in Japan for nine months. I inwardly congratulated myself for having beat the odds. I’d proven my boss wrong. But as I trudged home to face another evening of reruns of The Office and left-over sushi from 7-11, I wondered at what cost. Most days I felt unattractive, unwanted and worst of all, unfemale. When not even a short skirt or slinky top attracted more than a passing glance and even construction workers, who could usually be counted on for a leer, regarded me with bored, blank expressions, I felt like a Martian. And very, very alone. Perhaps I’d been wrong not to leave when the last shipload of foreign women sailed away to brighter horizons and better dating odds.
Because the truth is that Tokyo’s a tough city to be single … if you’re, you know, a Western woman.
You're not entitled to dating and sex. It's all overrated anyway, right? It's not essential, you can live without it