Yes 2d is better. Much better.
That kindness you speak of is non existant for many people.I am 30, I have been in only 5 relationships 2 long terms ones and only 1 was worth it and that was in highschool. We acted like a team. Helping eachother with chores, studies waking up to random talks at 2am. Sex was great as we both explored our sexuality with eachother. Never met someone like her again after she moved for college.
Most Real girls/women/ladies/females whatever your preferred term is I have been with have only lied, cheated, stole or manipulated. One even tried to ruin my relationship with my roomate.
Its hard to explain. Especially without sounding at least kind of pathetic. Real girls can never be anything but themselves. A 2d anime girl can be whatever you want... That sounds bad.. Controlling even....
Okay. Say someone asked you to help with dinner. you dont want to, you had your own rough day. You do it but hesitantly or without enthusiasm. That shows and no one wants to put their SO out there like that. Sometimes that feeling can last a week. so its a week of possible tension.
(disclaimer: not saying men are better in anyway)
but with a 2d girl she will throw on a maid cosplay bend over forward ever so slightly so she is looking up at your face and say "Everything is okay, leave it to me, I will do my best!" I can indulge without making anyone uncomftorable or giving anyone more work or request something they dont want to do.
I have 2d fetishes because IRL fetishes suck. I can have a 2d foot fetish without worrying about hygiene or medical/science stuff that ruins it. Plus attitude. 2d anime girls always have the appropriate attitude, skills, or ability (this last one applies to the fantasy of it obviously). Where as real girls can lack confidence or attitude. Not to mention I avoid the judgements afterwords. a 2d girl never judges mocks or tells other people what I like for laughs.
SEX TALK WARNING
Example: Say people go to have anal sex. It is not as simple to do as vaginal sex. Lots to think and worry about. Pain and mess being at the top. You have to think about that with a real girl. How comftorable is she, am i hurting her, is she doing this because i seemed like i really wanted it, did i pressure her without realizing etc.
2d anime girl would practically live for that.
Its a mental weight off the shoulders knowing I can just indulge without worry or needing a mop(not ever actually needed just me trying to be funny)...
Basically 2d girls are better because they dont exist. They wont steal your credit card ,they dont have their own life to worry about, they dont make you feel like you wasted 3 years of your life or make you question your own confidence. They are a fantasy that exists purely to make you smile.
This next one is rather complicated fo me to put into words... Its lke if you took all the "disrespect" (in quotations because disrespect is subjective but to simplify think of it like seeing real girls only for sex) and focused that on a drawing.
That sexual lust that would make you ignore the personality of the real girl can be targeted to a 2d girl. Like a sexual lightning rod. So now that your lust has a target you can focus more on what the girl is actually like.
And most people suck. We only (from experience) see the world depending on our emotions or logic. example: someone lonely will be fin with abuse. If we take away what changes our perception we are left with the reality of what we are looking at. So many emotions that can be targeted to 2d girls leave room for clarity when engaing in real social situations.
I find mixing in asmr/binaural recording or audio dojins to be mentally refreshing. With 2d anime girls I get the visual, with what i just mentioned I get the audio and lastly with adult toys I get the feeling. All of which can be suited to whatever I like. Maybe i want a 2d girl to throw on a strap on maybe i want footplay or just a walk in the park. The illusion of resting on a lap.. It can all be achieved using other stimulants.
Most things people do like shopping, banking or cleaning can be done by an individual. Most relationships outside procreation have little to no meaning. Its all science telling us to mate. 2d girls and technology act like a placebo in that regards.
Basically if you can "trick" yourself/instincts into making it seem like you are not alone there is no need for other people. You avoid the physical, emotional, financial pain while saving your time for you.
2d girls are better because fantasy is better than reality.