The title makes you pity these wretched dolts, at least for a second. People who don’t understand the concepts of friends and love, are clearly very far from understanding the concept of mutual attraction, shared interests, harmony, which are crucial to a loving relationship.
Scam? How? People like to be with certain people, like to spend time together, have fun together, long to meet if there is a long time between meeting each other. That’s what we call friendship.
Love is a stronger feeling, a deeper feeling. You can love friends, of course, close friends who are like siblings. Love for parents, actual siblings and children, grandparents, etc, is pretty common. But nonny here is probably talking about love for a partner. As soooo many people have written songs, books, plays, sonnets, etc about love, for thousands of years, it’s clearly not a fabrication, but something that most people feel. Perhaps you have a bit of psychopathy in you, dearie?
Honest people are not “incels”. Honest people treat others with kindness and respect.
What would be gained by fabricating concepts of love and friendship, if they didn’t really exist?
No, friends will ask to help you with shit. Have you asked them for help in return? Not as a tit for tat, just asking for a lift home or a cup of coffee when you forgot your wallet, and not gotten it? Have you ever offered to help someone (without any ulterior motive)?
I have never had that Best Friends experience, but I have had friends, and colleagues that I’m still “friends” with on Facebook a decade after we stopped working together. (I put friends in bracket there, as FB “friends” is not the same as actually friends, though people can be both.)
Just today I got a lift home, as it rained last night, then it began to snow and the temperature fell below freezing (veery slippery), so I didn’t think it was safe to take the bike to work, as I haven’t got the winter-tires on yet.
As I haven’t had that many close friends, I’m unaccustomed to offering help, or offering to buy another round at the bar, stuff like that. In real life, I’m a quiet and introvert person, and often the subject has moved too far away from what I wanted to say, before I can pluck up the courage to say it. That is on me; the others are not being deliberately “manipulative” or “assholes”.