The Emperor’s New Golden Mean
Radical trans theorists believe that anyone can be any sex or gender they declare, and that reality is not chained to any objective evidence and that sex and gender can change at any time.

Radical feminists (and others) believe people are conceived as one of two sexes through a genetic process, and that sex cannot change in humans, and that sex is an objectively observable trait of organisms.

Then there are people who have declared themselves a reasonable middle ground between these two extremes. They believe that maybe sex isn’t changeable but if certain individuals meet standards of secondary sex characteristic manipulation (or if they put in significant enough effort in doing so) they should be treated as if they have changed sex, legally and socially.

This is the fallacy of the Golden Mean. No one can change sex, ever, and people who pretend that others have changed sex are lying and being unreasonable. The fact that there is another, even more unreasonable version of trans theory does not make the moderate view more correct. No matter how deeply and sincerely a man believes he is a woman, no matter how well he apes stereotypically feminine behavior or comportment or dress, no matter how much he swears he’s not turned on by what he’s doing… he’s still a man.

In English we have third person pronouns based on sex. It might be awkward to refer to a woman who has done a great job disguising herself as a man with female pronouns, but to do otherwise would be creating a false impression. Some people do it out of social pressure… guess what, that’s what the story The Emperor’s New Clothes is about!

In the story The Emperopr’s New Clothes, the crowd of people who see that the Emperor is stark bollocks naked but pretend they see his robe are not a reasonable position between the lying merchants and the child who shouts out “He’s naked!” The child is correct.