"Select your instrument according to the child's size," writes Pearl. "For the under one year old, a little, ten to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (stripped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective." Additional advice from their Web site: Switching with a length of quarter-inch plumbing supply line is a "real attention-getter."
"Hands," by contrast, "are for loving and helping," Pearl writes.
Yet again, in a sense, so is the switch. "The parent holds in his hand (in the form of a little switch) the power to absolve the child of guilt, cleanse his soul, instruct his spirit, strengthen his resolve, and give him a fresh start through a confidence that all indebtedness is paid..." writes Pearl. "After a short explanation about bad attitudes and the need to love, patiently and calmly apply the rod to his back-side. Somehow, after eight or ten licks, the poison is transformed into gushing love and contentment. The world becomes a beautiful place. A brand new child emerges. It makes an adult stare at the rod in wonder, trying to see what magic is contained therein."
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Well, I suppose it is effective, but isn't using tree branches and rulers a bit extreme? Surely, the hand is a tool of punishment and reward?
First thought that came to my mind while I was reading it was that this had to be some BDSM rulebook or something. Then, when I saw "under one year old" I felt sick. And reading the rest I wondered if this person even knows that hitting a child makes the child think that he/she is evil instead of realizing that what he/she did was bad like he/she would with a simple talk.
Well, now at least I get where the "we're all sinners" mentality comes from...
"Somehow, after eight or ten licks, the poison is transformed into gushing love and contentment."
You torture him long enough and he'll tell you who started the goddamn Chicago fire, but that don't necessarily make it fucking so! - Nice Guy Eddie
You know, Pearl can use words like loving, helping, spirit, confidence, contentment, but that doesn't change the fact that this child abuse. It's like putting a rose on a cowpat. The ugliness isn't disguised at all.
The sickest thing is that Pearl may actually believe the doublethink he's spouting.
Why the fuck do you need to hit a BABY?
And no, there's no fucking magic in hitting your child with a tree branch. It will not make your kid think, "Gee, my daddy sure loves me!"
Of course, if harmony means having a hitting psycho, I would nominate these guys to word redefinition of the month. Besides, compare kids with mules..........not working people.
My head asplode!
You know, I think I've actually read the article. It doesn't get any better than this.
Obviously this isn't a very scientific procedure, since the required number of lashes varies between eight and ten, and the exact methodology is not very well explained.
In short: STOP HITTING YOUR CHILDREN, YOU SICK PERSON! I shan't be surprised if they sue for emancipation later in life.
"After a short explanation about bad parenting and the need to love, patiently and calmly sentence the freak to a long jail term, where a rod will be applied to his back-side.
Somehow, after eight or ten rapes, the abuse is transformed into gushing love and contentment. The prison becomes a beautiful place. A brand new man emerges. It makes a prison butch stare at the rod in wonder, trying to see what magic is contained therein."
Instructions in child abuse? For hitting a BABY who cannot possibly understand the concept of punishment (and cannot possibly be capable of doing anything worthy of punishment yet anyway)?
This is stupid, sickening, heartbreaking, and grotesque in the extreme. This person, and anyone who goes along with this "philosophy," needs to be separated from all children and deprogrammed forthwith.
And Brain_in_a_Jar is correct: The euphemism of "instrument" is just a whitewash job for what this really is: a weapon , or even more accurately a torture device -- to be used on children.
If ever Jesus wept, it would be at this.
~David D.G.
Under one year old?!?!?
Under one year old means an infant. Infants, almost by definition, do not misbehave. They don't understand how to behave, so how can they break the rules? They drink milk, sleep, pass wastes, and scream bloody murder when they're uncomfortable. What, are you going to hurt and frighten a baby, who can't possibly understand why the pain is happening or how to make it stop, for crying out of turn?
This is evil. This is evil. My philosophy requires me to acknowledge that this person is part of my species, but God, I wish that weren't the case.
Irene
I submitted this. I have been actively trying to get local bookstores and Amazon to stop selling the Pearl books since a little boy died when his mother took their advice. Many new parents are using this book.
Just as a heads up, it also advocated pulling infants hair when they bite during nursing. I think this is a manual of child abuse and weep at the thought that children are being raised like they are animals (and yes the Pearls do equate children with mules and other domestic animals).
I think the most horrible aspect of Pearl "training" is that the parent goads the child into committing a spanking offense so that the parent can have an opportunity to train him/ her. One of the examples is putting a toddler at the bottom of the steps and then switching them when they attempt to crawl up.
Kelian: Good for you. And I can hardly believe that they are able to publish something like this without committing some kind of infraction against the law. They are advocating violence against babies, for goodness' sake! Torturing of infants! Publications like this make those of us who advocate responsible freedom of speech positively sick.
~David D.G.
"I think the most horrible aspect of Pearl "training" is that the parent goads the child into committing a spanking offense so that the parent can have an opportunity to train him/ her. One of the examples is putting a toddler at the bottom of the steps and then switching them when they attempt to crawl up."
Kelian, you know the Ren & Stimpy episode that was banned and never broadcast featured that exact method of training? "In order to be obedient, you must first learn to disobey!" George Liquor orders his new pets (R&S) to sit on the couch so he can beat them and hence teach them not to do it. "Get on that couch! Make me mad, or I'll be really mad!"
Bear in mind this was supposed to be a ludicrously exaggerated parody of real life, in a work ultimately banned from circulation for depicting violent depravity even in a satirical way - how fucking wrong do things have to be when they actually get like that??
"Somehow, after eight or ten licks, the poison is transformed into gushing love and contentment."
My dad took a switch to me when I was bad. Or a belt. Whatever was handy. I NEVER felt contented aftewards. Not even once. What I felt was unloved, and evil.
Kelian: The instances you cited made me physically ill. I can't help but picture someone treating my little girl (12 weeks old) that way, and it kills me. It scares me that someone who might end up watching her while I'm at work (a day care provider) might subscribe to this insane way of raising children. I'm glad you posted this. Really. I'm going to save that article, so I know what to watch out for.
I pity anyone who tries to do this to a child I know. Including and *especially* mine. I'll kill them. No euphemisms. No joking. I'll flat-out murder them. I swear to God I will.
How anyone could treat their own child this way (let alone someone else's)... It's monsterous. Children need our love and protection. This is especially true of babies. To punish them for just being babies...
As a mother, just *thinking* about things like this breaks my heart.
*Wipes eyes* I just...I have no more words.
Wow... I hate you forever. What kind of monster are you? This dude is seriously fucked in the head, and so are the fucktards who actually buy this shit. Those poor, poor, little children with retarded parents who use those as a guidebook.
Kelian: You rock. For the sake of the sanity and health of little kids, don't stop trying.
I can see it now...
"I love you, Bobby. Now stop squirming!"
"OW! Daddy, that HURRRRTS!"
"Done. Now you're a new boy, Bobby."
"Yeah, because I didn't need therapy before."
Oh, and you're extremely stupid. I thought practicing magic was sinful?
That just eerily sounds like something out of Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty books... if you want to make spanking a sexual event (gushing love and contentment, much like an orgasm in my life!) then go right ahead and get on with the training! Though in Anne's book I think this kind of (sick?) training began at puberty... but hey, maybe earlier is better!
Seriously, can't these people be charged with a crime? I was under the impression that inciting people to commit a crime was illegal, and this is very much inciting people to abuse children.
This person needs to be locked up and never allowed near a child. They are as bad as a paedophile.
The most evil among us excel at using beautiful words where no beauty can exist.
Also, :bounce: for Kelian for submitting this. Don't give up the fight!
Under...a year...?
MONSTERS!
This is downright depressing. I want these people dead.
On a lighter note, this kind of reminds me of Female Trouble . "Don't make me beat you with a car aerial again!"
For the under 1 year olds - why not just put on a pair of steel toe cap boots and kick the fuck out of them?
you are one sick, disgusting piece of human excrement Lynn!
Maybe you should get an appropriate punishment for your sadism!
I feel sick now. And shrinks have found out why kids act better after physical punishment.
Answer: Sense of guilt. While you beat your child, kid wants you dead or badly hurt; child wants to be as big as you, so (s)he can fight back. And feels guilty for those thoughts afterwards, all the while thinking: What kind of person I am, wanting to hurt my mother/father. So, the kid behaves well, until the sense of guilt worns out.
My question is: Do you really want your kid to behaves because of fear or because of his/hers inner sense of morality? Think long and hard, Pearl.
Someone report Pearl to the relevant child welfare authorities. Then she'll know how much the likes of her are 'Loved' by the old lags & lifers in prison.
'Spare the rod and spoil the child'. A nonce by any other name...
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