The writer of the NY Times article summed up her own purpose best: “
I have acted out in all manner of ways to dispel the “model minority” image.” Obviously, she wrote the article simply to hit as many buttons as possible.
Since this discussion has included talk of Asian women generally
I can offer a little of my own experience. I’ve dated Chinese-Americans (3), Vietnamese-American (1), and Japanese (1). The Japanese woman was an exchange student in the US temporarily. The others were raised in the US.
My experience is that Asian women can be attractive from a distance but less so up close and personal. They meet a lot of today’s beauty expectations naturally slim petite figure, long hair, low volume voice. Those qualities can be kryptonite for a lot of men. It’s usually not till they hit their 40s that their bodies balloon out and they start cutting their hair short. When younger, their slim body shape is not something they work at it just happens. For example, the Vietnamese girl weighed only 102 pounds (unusually thin) but really thought she’d look a lot better at 105 pounds for some reason. This was extremely important to her. But no matter how much she stuffed herself her body would revert to 102.
Unfortunately for the writer of the article, a lot of the attractive qualities are built into the biology of Asian women, and that isn’t going to change.
On the other hand, the behavior of the Asian women could be difficult, to put it mildly. While all were low-key and quiet under normal circumstances, they could be tough as nails when it came to demanding their own way. The Chinese-Americans, in particular, had a hard edge, and often had little empathy for others. That included little empathy towards white men, by the way. When angered or upset, they all got loud quickly, with their voices having a screechy quality.
There were differences among them depending on the country of origin. That factor seemed to affect even the US-born ones. Not all Asian women/cultures are alike.
One other point: There’s a stark difference in self-regard between Asian women raised in the US and Asian women in Asia itself. With the former, they soon learn as girls in school that they are special to white boys and later to white men (which in fact they are). Asian women raised in Asia, by contrast, are surrounded their entire lives with other women of the same body type (slim when young), and hair (dark and long). Thus the latter don’t necessarily grow up thinking of themselves as special. Like the average white woman in the US, she has no reason to think of herself as particularly attractive compared to other white women.
What is the point of all that? If you’re going to date Asian women, maybe Asia is a better place to meet and date Asian women than the US. Also, pick your origin-country carefully, even for US-born Asian women.