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hate2breakittoya:

“im a survivor and i engage in bdsm to cope and explore my trauma in a safe environment”

you just admitted yourself that you’re retraumatizing yourself. what’s more, you’re retraumatizing yourself… for the purpose of sexual gratification? and your partner is not only okay with it, but playing the part of your assaulter brings them sexual gratification as well? and you’re still gonna argue that it’s a healthy coping mechanism and a healthy sexual practice to be involved in?

thewoesofyaoi:

if i may proffer my own Hot Take to add onto this excellent post: inasmuch as systemic oppression is a form of continual, lifelong trauma, this is also true of other “kinks” or sexual behaviors that have to do with reinforcing the violence you face as a member of a marginalized group.

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tl;dr these forms of oppression all include a facet that attempts to govern your sexuality, which asserting your sexual agency goes against. To a degree, I think this can in and of itself be regarded as a form of sexual trauma. It’s often easier to try to deal with that trauma by turning into a Fun Sexy Thing that you can control, rather than digging deeper into your own pain and its causes.

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(Submitter note: These are excerpts taken from an argument about a fanfic trope called "omegaverse," in which some male characters may go into heat and be able to become pregnant. The runner/s of this blog believe this is inherently homophobic and transphobic, and gets rather Tumblrina about it. There's plenty more at the source)

the homophobic stereotypes in the lines of “gay men always think of sex” isn’t a new thought. it’s been with us for decades. the lgbt community has tried to work against this stereotype for decades. it’s a battle we still fight today, and one we still are losing constantly because homophobes continue to lable gay men as sex crazed monsters only thinking about sex.

creating content where men in a m/m relationship are so influenced by their “heat cycle” that they cannot stop themselves from having sex – or if they can, can’t stop thinking of sex, even if they’re far distanced away from a sexual situation – comes, directly, from this stereotype. you, a non-mlm writing about men in m/m relationship, having gay sex in this way, it is directly drawing from these stereotypes.

it doesn’t matter if your fanfics doesn’t contain non-con (though many fanfics in the omegaverse circles do). you, a non-mlm describing men in m/m relationships still benefits from this homophobia. this kind of homophobia will never affect you, and thus, creating content for it is you benefitting from this homophobic view of gay men. and for what? so you can enjoy a sex scene? is it worth it?

and i’m sure you’re not a transphobe, but again, omegaverse a trope was created due to transphobia. it was created because cis people would rather see a cis man get pregnant through his (self lubricating) anal, rather than think of trans men being a part of their precious gay smut. it draws from the transphobic view that trans men (women) are not real men (women), and only real gay sex is between two cis men.

you may not have transphobic ideas when you write omegaverse, but you still create content which was thought up due to transphobic views. you’re not a trans man, and thus, if you create content where you would rather have a self lubricating anal rather than toy with the idea that there are self lubricating trans men out there who are okay with vaginal sex, you are benefitting from transphobia. your content is a product of this transphobia. even if you don’t write “transphobic” content yourself. even if you toy with trans people in your omegaverse fanfics. omegaverse cannot excist if transphobia is removed.