Every single person I have ever known, gay or straight, has described their sexual orientation the same way: they didn't chose it, it was just always there and part of who they were.
I'm a believer, but there are many reasons I can't accept the idea that homosexuality is a sin against God. God creates us, and he knows who we are before we are born. People don't chose to be gay, they are born that way. I can't chose to love a man anymore than my gay brother can chose to love a woman. And if they don't have a choice, then God created them like that and I can't accept the idea that God would create people to be sexually immoral and have to endure that throughout their lives.
Hi Mr. Opinionated. First, thank you for taking the time to comment, respectfully. Second, I will do my best to speak the Truth in love to you, because Christians love people, even when we don’t agree with their choices. I repeat, Christians love people, even when we disagree with their choices. What does that mean? That means that “disagreement” is NOT hate. That means that I love you and because I love you as Christ instructed me to, I will speak the truth in love with you and pray you come to know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. I will not argue with you, I will only share God’s Truth and move on. Here we go....
You stated you are a “believer”, but you did not say what you believe, so that could mean anything. God’s word, the Holy Bible, states that if someone (as in a Bible-believing Christian) loves God then they (as in Bible-believing Christians) will obey Him. Anyone who is indeed a “Bible-believing Christian”, will love God enough to obey Him and deny themself, i.e., their flesh. Now, please understand that that may be difficult (and is impossible without God) because the flesh wars against the spirit. That means that even though a Bible-believing Christian’s spirit wants to obey God, their flesh does not. This is when we must submit ourselves (including our flesh) to God’s authority and deny our self (our flesh) taking up our cross and following Jesus Christ instead of being led by our flesh. God is a spirit and those who worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth...in spirit and in truth...not in flesh and lies.
Every true Bible-believing Christian (like the OP Beckett and many others who lived the same lifestyle) acknowledges that sin is a choice. Every true Bible-believing Christian has denied selfish flesh and is worshipping God in spirit and in truth. Bible-believing Christians do not argue for, nor defend sin, we seek to obey God and live holy and upright before Him. I apologize if you have been taught a false, watered down gospel. We regularly pray for all followers here and will pray for you as well. Please seek Jesus Christ.