Confidence is entirely overrated. Doubt, insecurity, not only are these more rational and useful for reality, but in the long run they're more attractive than confidence
How is insecurity more attractive? I'd like to hear your opinion, if you don't mind
I don't want a woman who thinks she's attractive, because that's not something I can or want to commiserate with. As appealing as the idea of some super-scottie-2-hottie is, realistically I know that I'd never be able to understand them the way I understand my girlfriend, who knows what it's like to go through life without the privilege of being the apple of everyone's romantic eye. I want someone who doesn't see my own insecurity, something I cherish and consider a deep part of me, as some defect, but rather an entirely understandable part of growing up in the world.
was in love with them that I've never leave them.
Intellectually speaking confidence is just horribly unattractive. The best learners are those that understand the position of ignorance from the start. Those who confidently stroll into the temple forget to take off their shoes, so to speak.
In general this is just a part of me. I highly value doubt, insecurity, and the like. I never get tired of reminding my girlfriend that yes, I do indeed love her, and rather than be offended by her doubt, I'm assuaged by the fact that she's so concerned, because that lets me know it's real.