So because she wasn’t raised with a dad she has no idea what respect is? That makes absolutely no sense. Also, some other questions:
You describe your life as perfect. What does that mean? Does that mean that you have a great job and are able to provide? Does it mean she has freedom to do what she wishes with her time? Or is your life perfect because you play video games and sit on the computer all day and let everybody else do all the work? There are versions of perfect that include everyone and versions that don’t. I don’t know you or your (soon to be ex it sounds like) wife but the way you phrase things is pretty fucking suspicious.
You say she just wants to fight. What does that mean? Is she picking fights with you because she’s an asshole or is it that she has to fight to get anything she wants in the relationship? Are there things in your “perfect” life that you are willfully ignoring and thus forcing her to deal with?
There’s usually a lot more to a relationship than “I’m perfect so my wife must be a total bitch for asking me to do anything”. You’re not perfect and your life isn’t perfect. I don’t have to know you to say that because nobody and no life is actually perfect in all ways.
I think a human interactions type curriculum should be included in public schooling. Students would learn math, history, language arts, science, etc, plus an age appropriate course on how to interact with others without being a piece of shit.