Real women are self-effacing. They put their husbands and their children before themselves. This is how women show love: by self-surrender. Avoid the four-C's. Women who compete, control, criticize or complain. Avoid women who are overachievers or neurotic. Don't get hung up on unavailable women. They're aren't as special as they think. Choose a wife who complements you and is a good companion. Don't look for your female counterpart. Choose one who has skills and qualities you lack and will be a good mother.