How many women do you know in real life, and what have they told you about the empathy they feel or don’t feel?
I’m a woman and I DO feel genuine, heartfelt empathy for people who haven’t been able to find love and/or sex, and I sincerely hope they will find someone special in their lives soon.
I’ve given dating advice to people many times, but as everyone is different, and all have different preferences, this is very hard to do in a general way.
Only when it’s actually the person’s personality, which you can only get to know by talking to someone, or by reading their comments, then it’s valid to point at the personality as a culprit. As most incels are at least assholes-in-writing, we point out this problem.
Most people find themselves uglier than other people do. You seldom scrutinize the looks on other people as thoroughly as you do your own. They are just a familiar face. If the person is pleasant, the face will be pleasant to you as well. Kind eyes can make a whole face appear kind. Women care less in general about appearance than about personality. Teenagers might focus more on appearance, but that’s a relatively short period in one’s life and as everything is developing at the same time, one is pretty “stupid” and self-centered during this period. Focus on adults instead.
Saying someone is normal or average looking is a way to say “you’re neither better nor worse than most other people in appearance, better look somewhere else to find the problem”.
Non-transactional? You mean “non-prostitute”?
If everyone is telling you that your looks aren’t the problem, that you’re fine as you are, then the problem probably lies somewhere else.
How many women over 45 have you talked to about this, or asked out, or even befriended?
Oh, by the way, how much empathy do YOU have for unattractive females and their “inability” to have sex?
(Inability is more about erectile dysfunction, dearie, than not finding a partner.)