(Submitter’s Note: Follow-up to a previous quote:https://fstdt.com/7974GR8RGTKN4)
6 MORE TIPS ON RAISING YOUR DAUGHTERS ON THE RED PILL
My last article made some noise over at Roosh’s and ROK (with this as the original reference). So I thought, with one of the comments on Roosh’s site encouraging me, that another piece would be a good idea. So, let’s get started with more tips on raising your daughter…
1. Develop Critical Thinking
If you didn’t know it by now, kids are impressionable. Actually, adults are also impressionable and girls are probably the most. This is why game works. We all know that females are herd creatures. So how can one help “save” his daughter from becoming part of the herd?
By adopting critical thinking and embracing praxeology.
When I teach my daughters something about the nature of the world, I sometime tell them the following line: “Look and see if it is true by yourself”.
My favorite example – Debunking “female superiority.” Take this show for example – K.C. Undercover
Yes, a female genius that is also athletic and can play basketball. Oh, and she is 16. Her brother is a nerd, and her parents don’t acknowledge him. Not to mention that they are blacks (and white folks are usually evil). So with all that BS on screen, what can a father do?
Use critical thinking.
“Girls, do you think that a 16 year old can actually be that good in everything?” They tend to agree with me. “She is good at playing basketball on the show” they tell me. I’ve been waiting for that. “I use to play division 1 in high school, and was also pro, for some time. I was a straight-A student also. Do you think I would have time to be an undercover spy?”
They get the point.
Use this tactic as often as possible, and you got yourself a critical thinker in the family. This means that she will not follow the herd that easily and will stick to what she knows. Hopefully, if you have been there and done the right thing, it will be traditional views on gender relations and your view of how the world works.
Which brings me to the almost “opposite”…
2. Encourage traditional gender roles
“Dad, it looks like guys have all the fun” You may sometime hear them say. This is where you need to make your frame their frame. Otherwise you might get a critical thinker who believes that being a tomboy is better than being a girl. Next step may be feminism.
This is where you work on their femininity, give meaning and show.
[Picture of a Nuclear Family
transcript: Traditional Sex Roles Week #BackToTheKitchen]
“Do you like being injured?” I ask. “No!” they are appalled, “Dad, why do you want us to get injured?” “I didn’t say that. I asked if you like being injured. You know that boys get injured more than girls. Also boys go to wars to defend us. Do you want to go to war?”
With this dialog one can see how you make being masculine, for a girl, less appealing.
Make sure to be there and show them the actual hardship of being a man. This is where feminists lack – they envy our rewards but don’t want to share the burden. Also remember to encourage the female experience.
5. Teach them to regulate their emotions
From my experience, and what the red pill teaches us – women are primarily driven by their emotions. Women of the past, by choice or by necessity, knew how to regulate their emotions better and were not all about her feelings.
“…what she thinks of as morality is actually built upon her feelings. When faced with any type of stress, she will almost always follow the herd or make the wrong decision”
Part of helping your daughter to grow is explaining and exercising her in recognizing her emotions. When my elder has a “hormone serge” I explain (afterwards) about it. Those episodes still happen, but one can help his daughter to regulate it (to some extent).
Work on it regularly. Teach them to harness their emotions for good, and not to turn it against themselves (I use the TV as examples for it, but one may use books and other people around). A girl who can, to some extent, regulate her emotions will be a great wife and mother.
6. Tell her what you expect from her
So natural, yet so overlooked by, well, most of the people.
I heard moms and dads saying stuff like: “Well, it is up to her.” I almost cringe hearing this. This is being lazy, and not putting the right emphasis on the right things in life. I don’t intend to tell my daughters what occupation to choose, but I am going to tell them how to live their life.
This is done by stories (with morals), and sometimes actually telling them what I expect.
This is my second article on the subject (here is the first). I assume that this one will be less controversial. This is my lessons learned from my red pill parent journey of so far. The more I look at it, it just seems a lot like daughters were raised a few decades ago, but with a new flavor.
I want to emphasize again – this does mean I get everything right. However, working by those tips will increase the likelihood of my daughters being better suited for the world, and for growing up. This is part of my legacy.