[JFL] Therapy is literally paying someone to pretend to be your friend
What a fucking absurd concept. Seriously fuck anyone who promotes this shit. How fucking stupid would you have to be to fall for this shit?
Every time I hear someone say "my therapist" I cringe. How bad has society gotten that PAYING SOMEONE TO PRETEND TO BE YOUR FRIEND is considered normal or healthy? Or even a fucking solution?!
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that’s… not how therapy or therapists works… at all… It's more akin to seeing a doctor for medical issues, only for your psyche, its’ not ‘paying someone to pretend to be your friend’ its’ a doctor trying to help repair your psyche because its’ starting to affect your life in a negative way, and thus far its’ working… but, good to know that Incels think therapy is useless and that’s why they don’t go to it… It certainly explains a whole plentral of psychological issues that could be addressed if they just go to a therapist every once and a while
Speaking as someone who went through eighteen months of court-mandated psychological counseling as a youth, I call utter bullshit on this. My therapist was a guy who tried to help a deeply troubled and angry kid find some semblance of peace in a life-situation that saw me go through four years of psychological and physical abuse at the hands of hillbilly classmates and apathetic teachers only there for the meager paycheck, with parents who couldn’t bring themselves to understand and who were already overwhelmed with five kids and intermittent income to distract them from their eldest grappling with depression and what I suspect was the onset of a nervous breakdown.
Honestly, in a twisted way, getting a conviction for assault was the best thing to happen to me. I slammed face-first into rock bottom (at the time, at least) and could only go up, and I got the help I needed to get there.
I dunno where you are in the world now, Mike (I forget his last name, it’s been 26 years) but thank you for saving my sanity.
I has the hugs to give #kuyohashi too! I might affectionately in private refer to myself as my clients’ “therapy buddy” but the main goal is always to help them feel better and become happier people more secure in themselves and their lives. If I end up being considered their friend, by them, then that’s just a fringe benefit that should show we’ve built up rapport and trust. People like Quotey-McCrazypants fail to understand… but then again it makes sense. They see the world through this fucked up twisted version of The Matrix where they hold the sekerit knowledge and nobody else understands or sees it, anything that fits their view is truth everything that challenges it is a lie. If they can’t step back and question themselves or the reality they find themselves in, they can’t challenge their own viewpoints. If they can’t challenge themselves to see “why” their life might not be going the way they want it to, I mean ‘really’ challenge themselves, not look for outside forces to blame (not that in some cases, such as kuyoashi’s there “aren’t” outside forces, there totally can be) then they won’t improve. That doesn’t mean life’s been always fair to them, in fact I’m sure most of them started as lovely people who got shat on too many times, went looking for answers, and found them from the wrong people. I can empathize with the plight they found themselves in originally, while finding the answers they came to from people more jaded and cruel than them to be fucked up. That’s… something I’ve had to work on with myself being so politically active ‘and’ being a therapist, being able to put my disgust at some of their viewpoints aside and try to see the hurting and damaged person underneath the hate and vitriol. Admittedly I’ve only had one client that was down that road, we only had one session, and I didn’t handle it the best in the moment (not badly just not in the best way) but I reflected on that incident a lot to drive myself to improve and grow my empathy. Divorce myself from my own shite and see the world through their lens - which isn’t always easy.
Jaysus, that was a long road to go through to say thanks for holding on and being able to get the help you needed while offering criticism of the Quoteperson’s disgustingly regressive worldview.
A therapist who pretended to be your friend would probably be "struck from the rolls" for being unprofessional.
A therapist is being paid to get you to come to terms with your life, he or she knows what questions to ask to get you to divulge more, to understand your own thoughts.
Life ISN’T fair, for anyone. Some are born with riches and are cushioned all their lives, others get nothing but rotten lemons. Most of us are somewhere in-between.
Therapy is literally pretending to friend someone to be your pay
What a cucking absurd pew font. Seriously suck anyone who promotes this fit. How fucking stud could you have to be to shill for this hip fat?
Every time I hear someone say "my rapist" I binge the Hyun card. How has society gotten that PRETENDING TO FRIEND SOMEONE TO BE YOUR PAY is considered the formal oral? Or even sucking a lotion?!
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