I has the hugs to give #kuyohashi too! I might affectionately in private refer to myself as my clients’ “therapy buddy” but the main goal is always to help them feel better and become happier people more secure in themselves and their lives. If I end up being considered their friend, by them, then that’s just a fringe benefit that should show we’ve built up rapport and trust. People like Quotey-McCrazypants fail to understand… but then again it makes sense. They see the world through this fucked up twisted version of The Matrix where they hold the sekerit knowledge and nobody else understands or sees it, anything that fits their view is truth everything that challenges it is a lie. If they can’t step back and question themselves or the reality they find themselves in, they can’t challenge their own viewpoints. If they can’t challenge themselves to see “why” their life might not be going the way they want it to, I mean ‘really’ challenge themselves, not look for outside forces to blame (not that in some cases, such as kuyoashi’s there “aren’t” outside forces, there totally can be) then they won’t improve. That doesn’t mean life’s been always fair to them, in fact I’m sure most of them started as lovely people who got shat on too many times, went looking for answers, and found them from the wrong people. I can empathize with the plight they found themselves in originally, while finding the answers they came to from people more jaded and cruel than them to be fucked up. That’s… something I’ve had to work on with myself being so politically active ‘and’ being a therapist, being able to put my disgust at some of their viewpoints aside and try to see the hurting and damaged person underneath the hate and vitriol. Admittedly I’ve only had one client that was down that road, we only had one session, and I didn’t handle it the best in the moment (not badly just not in the best way) but I reflected on that incident a lot to drive myself to improve and grow my empathy. Divorce myself from my own shite and see the world through their lens - which isn’t always easy.
Jaysus, that was a long road to go through to say thanks for holding on and being able to get the help you needed while offering criticism of the Quoteperson’s disgustingly regressive worldview.