I'm sorry, I could not even finish reading your article, I got to the part where you described the medical professionals telling you, "would you rather have a dead daughter or an alive son." I was quite triggered, apologies. That rhetoric makes me so angry. Because, in my case, what happened to my son when he transitioned??? He no longer exists!! The name I carefully and thoughtfully chose for him is now his "DEAD NAME"! He is not my son, but in HIS place is another person I don't know. So in essence, this new "girl" unalived my son.
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“That rhetoric makes me so angry. Because, in my case, what happened to my son when he transitioned??? He no longer exists!!”
“The name I carefully and thoughtfully chose for him is now his "DEAD NAME"!”
“He is not my son, but in HIS place is another person I don't know.”
“ So in essence, this new "girl" unalived my son.”
He is not my son, but in HIS place is another person I don't know. So in essence, this new "girl" unalived my son.
…Fuck you, you self-absorbed psychopath.
Seriously, I’ve mentioned that transphobe parents have a disturbing tendency to talk about their children as if it was a eulogy, but this one outright admits they don’t see their transchild as alive anymore…
Your kids are not bloody, fucking obligated to keep the name you’ve given them and they don’t even need to be trans to do it, hell even if I wasn’t, I still wouldn’t have kept the one mine chose because I frankly simply disliked it. If you flip over this kind of shit, you must literally think of your kid as a dress-up doll you get to play any way you want to. Grow the hell up and live your child alone, you fucked psycho. I pity your daughter for what she must face from your unhinged piehole.
"Because, in my case, what happened to my son when he legally changed his name to Batman by deed poll???? He no longer exists!! The name I carefully and thoughtfully chose for him is now his "DEAD NAME"! He is not my son, but in HIS place is another person I don't know. So in essence, this new 'Batman' unalived my son."
Some of recent posts here from transphobic parents remind me of those “math” puzzles which ask “where did the missing money (or other countable thing) go?” It didn’t go anywhere, because it was never missing. You wouldn’t even have thought to look for it if the puzzle’s improper framing of the situation hadn’t tricked you into it. That’s why I put “math” in quotes, because the real puzzle isn’t about the math, it’s about figuring out what error in thinking lead to the deceptive framing.
This is not quite the same thing because “your/my child” is not a set of countable objects or units. But there is an error somewhere in the parent’s framing of the situation which leads to a bad conclusion. Unfortunately a lot of the time, the “real child” isn’t so much “dead” as having never existed outside of the parent’s imagination, and now the illusion is thoroughly broken. This isn’t a situation unique to trans kids, just doubly tragic when it happens. In other cases, I suspect one or more category errors are involved, though I don’t know enough to guess at which ones would be typical.
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So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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