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35 (+1) Steps to Be a Woman of Character

1) Do the house work (all of it) unless your husband says otherwise.

2) Find mature Christian women whom are submitted to their husbands for ‘emotional’ support. Men are not women, so don’t expect them to relate to you as women.

3) Question cultural products produced by women. Are these women promoting misandry or other destructive ideas? Read your Bible and seek wise council if unsure.

4) Realize that you are not the center of the universe and a man will need time to himself. Don’t interrupt, don’t start trouble and don’t nag.

5) Realize that you, as a woman, are not the authority on what is sexist and what is not. Read your Bible.

6) Realize that sexism, as it is understood in the mainstream of society today, is not necessarily a bad thing. If a man tells you something is sexist, see if the Bible agrees with him. If a woman tells you something is sexist, see if the Bible agrees with her.

7) Don’t have sex until you are married. If you already have, then STOP. A woman of character does not fornicate. There is no need to have clear unambiguous communication regarding sexual relationships if you are not a whore.

8) Contraception? Consider the aspirin method. See number 7.

9) The HPV vaccine should have no place in biblical patriarchy for a woman of character. See number 7.

10) Have nothing to do with progressive name politics. If you don’t want your husband’s name, then don’t get married.

11) Don’t have children until you are married. When you do have children, expect to live the traditional role of wife and mother unless your husband says otherwise. You should behave like a Titus Ch 2, Prov 31 type of woman.

12) Pay attention to and gently encourage women to engage in traditional roles at family functions and at church. This especially should be done in the presence of feminists and churchian egalitarians. As a classy, feminine, attractive woman who believes the Bible, you should stand against role reversals whenever possible.

13) Be mindful of your inclination to usurp power within intimate/domestic relationships, especially with men—whether a husband, suitor, or family members.

14) Make sure honesty and respect guide your sexual relationship with your husband. Review number 7. Forget about “romance” as represented in modern society. It promises what cannot be delivered. Read your Bible.

15) Don’t be an online bystander in the face of misandry. You may have sons one day. Also, review numbers 5 and 6.

16) Be responsible with money. You don’t need 100 pairs of shoes or credit card debt, and any husband, future or current, does not need the added burden these would create.

17) Exercise and eat right. Do you find overweight and out of shape men attractive?

18) Don’t speak ill of men. Do not slander or gossip.

19) Do not pay attention to or believe what the “sex of experts” and “key figures” in the media say about anything. They are blind fools leading other blind fools. See number 7 and read your Bible.

20) Ensure that your role models are (or were if deceased) God fearing women who submitted themselves to their husbands.

21) Praise the virtues of your husband, father, and / or brother(s) to others (especially to other women).

22) Demonstrate integrity with your female friends. (i.e., Don’t be a “ho.”). Also, don’t have “HOs” for friends. Don’t have friends that try to turn you against your husband or your father. Don’t have friends that talk bad about the men in their lives.

23) Don’t treat your husband or any other male family members disrespectfully. See number 4.

24)Know that acknowledging your own selfish opinions and stereotypes is not enough. Do something about them.

25) Do not have male “friends” or “beta orbiters”. Realize that the men you know are family, brothers in Christ, or acquaintances.

26) Submit to your father and, if married, your husband. Ask them for guidance and council. Also, find mature Christian women who take the whole council of God and have submitted themselves to their own husbands to teach you.

27) When courting, be responsible for events and special dates associated with your side of the family. When married, be responsible for all of it unless you husband says otherwise.

28) Men’s appearances should not be your concern unless they are suitors you are considering for marriage. Even then you should not nag them about it. See number 4.

29) Do not expect male family members or acquaintances to be at your beckon call. Be it to walk you home alone at night, or to a public space where you are likely to feel unsafe, or any other endeavor of your making. You can ask, but do not expect such treatment. Men are not beasts of burden that exist to serve you.

30) Inject wifely submission and biblical Patriarchy into your daily conversations with other women (especially with feminists and egalitarians) as often as possible.

31) Do not consume drugs or excessively drink alcohol. A woman of character is not a druggy or a drunk.

32) Be aware of the resources you consume, and don’t use more than is necessary. Someone is paying for it, and you can bet your bottom dollar it most likely is a man.

33) Don’t spread feminist none sense such as “income inequality” and “a woman can do anything a man can do”. Pretty much anything you hear a feminist claim as a fact will instead be a long refuted talking point.

34) Understand that your femaleness has an unearned privilege attached to it that you have to actively work to cede, and that being male comes with an unearned disadvantage that men have always had to bear.

35) Expose feminism for what it really is, rebellion against God and His creation and misandry in disguise

From the discussion of both my post on manface and girlpower characters it is clear that even in the men’s sphere there is much love for “strong women”. In my most recent post the discussion eventually turned to the question of teaching women to defend themselves (martial arts, weight lifting, concealed carry, etc).

Before I go any further, I’ll state that:

My own thinking on this topic has changed over time, as I started with something closer to the mainstream conservative view.
I’m inclined to generally respect other men’s choices regarding their own families.

Temptations of the kickass gal.

With bullet point number two above in mind, I think we need to be aware of the temptations involved. The kickass gal is a well established conservative feminist trope, and we should be aware of this when considering how we direct the training of our wives and daughters. Feminists know why they want our daughters to move out on their own in the big city and experience the carousel. Conservatives on the other hand pride themselves in knowing how to make this feminist goal “safe” for our daughters to achieve.

The kickass conservative gal trope is easiest to spot when it comes to guns. Conservative shooters love the idea of guns as a realization of the feminist dream. If you aren’t familiar with the subculture, go to any online forum on guns and you will find a group of men eager to explain how tough their pistol packing wives/daughters are. One of the local DFW gun ranges understands this culture well, and features pictures of a kickass gal with a pink gun on their website. This is not, I should add, a range dedicated to women shooters. I’ve been to their store, and their target customers are the same group of men every other range/store in the area caters to. The same is true of another gun shop just a few miles away, B&S Guns. They have a billboard* by the freeway with a picture of a woman shooting a rifle that says something to the effect of “Don’t worry, we won’t tell your husband.”

If you decide you want to teach your wife/daughters to shoot, keep in mind that the entire culture you are bringing them into is designed to tempt them into a feminist rebellious frame of mind. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it, but you shouldn’t kid yourself about the temptations you are throwing their way.

There is also the reality of the difference between men’s and women’s interests when it comes to masculine pursuits. All of the men I know who shoot enjoy going to the range to practice, and even enjoy breaking their guns down to clean and maintain them. I have yet to observe a wife or daughter who takes this level of interest in shooting. They may embrace the “empowerment” of it, or simply enjoy infrequently going to the range for a bit of shooting, but I’ve yet to come across a woman who really “got into it” the way men do. This, plus the realities of men’s and women’s different instinctive response to violence means that training and arming women is going to be much less effective than gun owning feminists desperately want to believe.

Again, I’m not saying you are wrong if you decide to teach your wife or daughters how to shoot. My wife enjoys coming to the range with me from time to time, and I plan on teaching our daughter to shoot. However, we need to be realistic about the risks and benefits involved with this.

We’re so manly, even our women are like men!

There is another temptation involved with this, and this temptation is for the men involved. Part of the appeal of the kickass conservative gal is the idea that the man who masculinizes his women is proving how much more manly he is than other men. This tends to start with selecting a specific masculine pursuit and declaring it to be the very definition of manliness. In a general sense this could include marriage and fatherhood or even the ability to attract women, but for this specific example it is something like shooting, hunting, rebuilding an engine, weight lifting, or martial arts. These are all positive pursuits for a man (in the right context), but none of them are essential for being a “real man”.

The base temptation for men is to declare that one of these manly pursuits is the real test of a man, and any man who doesn’t do them isn’t a real man. The tie in temptation is then to add another layer cementing the man’s status as the only real man in the room, by declaring that any man who doesn’t think highly of masculinizing women in this specific way is merely too much of a girly man to appreciate strong women. This is a standard feminist slogan, but it comes from a conservative I’m more manly than you are position.

*I’ll try to make it over to that section of town so I can snap a picture of the billboard.