1) As for the cartoon, if homosexual marriage meant that people were breaking into my house, and eating my food, I would likely be opposed to it. Fortunately, it doesn't, and I'm not. I'm not really concerned about the marriage bit - as long as they have equal CIVIL rights, it's not really my battle. If a woman wants to be a female catholic priest, and joins the church so she can work for change on the inside, so be it. If someone is horrified at this, and joins the church to prevent women from being priests, I'm also fine with that. As long as I don't have to go to their rituals, they can define marriage or priesthood as restrictively or inclusively as they want. This is why I am opposed to the 'bans' - it STILL boils down to telling churches what to do and what to believe. What if a church BELIEVES that gay marriage is valid? Are you going to ban that church?
2) if you actually spend $25K to stop any and all churches from ever considering gay couples 'married', you are a bigot, and a stupid and selfish one. Why not give that extra money to people who need it, in your own town?!? Oh I forgot, Jesus said not to feed the poor, because it only encourages them.