( worried19 )
My biggest gripe is that it's not even accurate. I am not "cis" according to gender ideology. I feel no affinity with femininity or womanhood. I don't "feel like" a woman in any way, shape, or form. If I had been given a choice, I would have preferred to have been born male.
That is a very interesting thing to say.
These words, these feelings you describe, they’re very familiar to me.
I’m not going to tell you what you are. But, based on your own words, I will tell you this:
There is something you can do. Something that I have been doing for a while now. Something that goes against every tenet of your 'gender-critical’ ideology (which, as far as I’m concerned, is the only real ‘gender ideology’).
Yes, doing it is unthinkable for you now; but you likely *would* be much happier and more satisfied with your life if you went through with it.
Fighting it and denying it will only make you more miserable. Trust me, I know from personal experience.
None of that makes me any less female. It doesn't make my sex less real. Women who have complicated or negative feelings about their biological sex are women, too.
Sure. But… while being born again is not possible, a good amount of change is doable. Not everything is set in stone.
Those feelings that you have, you aren’t doomed to them for eternity either. You *can* feel good inside yourself and your own body. You merely have to accept that it’s possible, that it’s okay, and that it’s not some sort of grand treason against your ‘sex class’.
Just… let go. And then follow your heart. To wherever that may be.
( Autumn-Aprodithe )
I'm not a cis, I am a woman.
These things are not mutually exclusive whatsoever.
I did not give these transvestites permission to call me anything else besides a woman so I have a right to say no to that crap.
Did I give you permission to call me a ‘transvestite’?
Did I give your “sisters” permission to call me a ‘trans-identified male’? A ‘pornsick fetishist’? A ‘skinwalker’? A ‘rapist’?
Do I too “have a right to say no to that crap”? To demand that I first give you permission to call me that?
No?
Funny, that. How it only goes one way for you.
“Rules for thee, but not for me.” How bloody ironic that you titled your thread that…
And I already know what you’d say; that these terms are just accurate and true, that they reflect objective reality, so it’s right to use them.
Except… they don’t. And it’s presumptuous of you to think that you know what I do and what’s going on inside my head when you don’t even know me. That just hearing that I’m a trans woman is enough to confirm in your mind that I’m a deluge of nonsense which you decided applies to me.
On the other hand, ‘cis’ or ‘cisgender’ is not a slur, no matter your echo chamber’s views on the matter. It simply means “not transgender” to most people. Not in any negative way; it’s a neutral descriptive term, with no implied scorn embedded into it.
Are you trans? No? Then you’re cis. And that’s perfectly okay! It’s not an insult!
It’s like calling someone “heterosexual” for only being sexually interested in the opposite sex/gender. Not an insult or a slur; just a descriptive term for what they actually are.
Also, if I meet you but don’t know you and don’t know you told your preferences on some obscure internet site, then I have no idea what permissions you gave anyone.
Did you allow me (without telling me) to call you cis? I have no idea.
But just as well, I *also* have no idea if you implicitly allowed me to call you a ‘woman’. Maybe you didn’t, so by your own logic, I shouldn’t call you a woman either?
Well… what should I call you then? Human? I mean, it’s obviously true, but you haven’t given me explicit permission for that one either, so maybe it’s offensive…
