RE: Why do feminists love bdsm and sex work so much?? How someone can be this brainwashed to not see that this is opressive to women??
I don't understand how women can want to be beaten and degraded and dominated by men. Do they really hate themselves that much? Do they consciously view themselves as inferior, or is it all subconscious? How can you date a man who beats you and calls you filthy names and believe that the same man actually loves and respects you? I just don't get it. And most of the women who are into this shit weren't raised watching men beat women. So they have no excuse, in my opinion. Abuse survivors are one thing. But the women who were never hurt or touched by anyone in childhood or adolescence have zero excuse to encourage others to abuse them and call it fun and normal and healthy.
Women in BDSM do not automatically get assigned some passive role by the BDSM community.The disparity is somewhere else: more people prefer passive roles. To understand BDSM you'd have to first acknowledge that this is an affinity to certain sensations people experience involuntarily. I've whipped both men and women, and - apart from minor physiological differences - both react similar and both physically and mentally ENJOY what I do. As long as you view BDSM as an extension of abuse or rape, instead for what it is, you actively keep yourself from any chance of understanding it.
Given that these are your beliefs, I don't see how you can consider yourself a radical feminist. That's all I've got to say.
Why would me being a BDSMer negate my radical feminism? The radical feminism I live, respects the aspects of people they can't and need not change. I can't change the fact that I am female any more than I can change the fact that I am a BDSMer.
I mean, radical feminism opposes what you are doing. I don't want to get into some big argument about whether you were born that way because I highly doubt you could be convinced otherwise, but the stripe of feminism you're claiming to follow doesn't match with that belief.