It seems there needs to be some honesty here from you and those who don’t consider trans women to be women that you wish to continue to call them men. Because if not the case then there is a very small group of women who were born with a penis and in some cases retain it.
I used to think that it was "kind" to refer to people how they wished. But now we have male rapists in women's jails, male athletes in women's sports, lesbians told they're bigots if they won't sleep with males, etc. So, yes, I am going to insist on saying who people actually are