AdorableYak11 #transphobia

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I am starting to despise my husband

I feel like he ruined my whole fucking life. He wants to be a woman. After six fucking years of being together he wants to be a woman. And he wants to be a lesbian as well. He wants us to be a lesbian couple.

And now I'm stuck at home 24/7 looking at my husband skip around in dresses and skirts while he wears fake silicone boobs under his bra. And the voice he puts on. Jesus Christ. I've tried so fucking hard to get him to go to therapy with me because our marriage is absolutely without a doubt FAILING but he doesn't want to. Doesn't think it's a good idea to have someone else involved. "They'll just turn us against each other" he says, hahahha well fuck me then, I guess I'm just fucking stuck in my now miserable goddamn marriage with my husband who can't go a day without putting on a dress.

I'm so fucking done. I'm 26. I'm an ADULT. And I want to have a happy marriage. One that works. One that's normal. One that doesn't make me so fucking miserable. I married a man. That's what I signed up. That's gone now.

Fuck. Rant over. Sorry for the swearing.

11 comments

I’m sorry your relationship with your wife is falling apart, but that’s not an excuse to misgender her.

That is, if you’re not just a transphobe/TERF making up a story to spread transphobia. It’s been proven that TERFs have astroturfed (or should I say “astroTERFed”?) r/TrueOffMyChest.

"After six fucking years of being together he wants to be a woman. And he wants to be a lesbian as well. He wants us to be a lesbian couple."

So....as i understand it, therapy is a big part of the transition. But you say she doesn't want to go to therapy.

Also, i'd think a woman who wznts to be a lesbian based on her own feelings would be at least a little open to the fact you aren't a lesbian, or bisexual.

Sorry, just, none of this sounds right. Is this really happeninh or are you researching fanfic?

Giving the very angry nature of the post a pass as relationship issues can be toxic when there are problems... transitioning is a major change. If someone is fully supportive and will stay in the relationship that is wonderful, but if it is a deal breaker it shouldn't be a call for derision.

If a cisgendered lesbian woman was trying to force relationships with cisgendered straight women, for instance, the lesbian woman would be at fault. By refusing to go through therapy to help the relationship I'd honestly more blame the transitioning party. Sure the OP is coming across as furious, but undergoing a major change like this and just telling your loved one to accept it with no compromise is fairly selfish.

Divorce her then so she can find someone who's accept her as she really is.

Divorce is quite simply the only option here. They won’t be happy with each other, and neither party seems to be willing to listen to or compromise with the other if this story is as reported. (though I blame the cis woman more, because of the added issue of transphobia which is evident here)

our marriage is absolutely without a doubt FAILING

...and with the OP's attitude, no wonder.

It's not the fault of the person you married.

Then just fucking end it with her. She’s going through much more shit than you are, specially with the way you are acting. There very well are pairs who stay together after one of them or both come out as trans and she wanted to give you two a fucking chance, you wouldn’t so at least have the grace to fuck off without crying like you’re some scammed fratboy with a bloodied knife in his hung-over hand, bitch.

I am a woman, my first ex turned out was a gay dude, we ended it up in friendship and spent years playing tabletops together after. your hostility is on you and yo alone.

While I can understand being upset because the life you thought you had with your husband was based on a fiction (that she actually was your husband rather than your wife), but I can't feel too sorry for you. Your wife probably didn't know or fully accept her gender identity when you got married (if she not telling you would be kinda messed up though). And you insist on misgendering her. Look, just get a divorce. Be sad, okay, but don't act like this is an excuse for your transphobic bullshit. You don't have to accept her as your wife, but you should accept her as a woman. Because she is a woman.

Uh, get divorced, maybe? I mean, my last spouse transitioned, and I got a divorce, and paid for the whole thing.

It's ok to not want to be in a relationship with a woman.

Just tell her that instead of being such a shitty person. You need to talk about such things.

"I'm not a lesbian," is a great place to start.

Both partners here, assuming they are real and that this story is an accurate presentation of this situation, seem like jerks to me.

Assuming this is true, just end the damn relationship. Put it out of its misery & move on with your lives.