Yeah, about that.
It’s honestly rather terryfying how massive the difference between objective/what-is-really-happening vs subjective/what-people-think-is-happening reality is on this topic. The studies showing just how prevalent this issue is have been around for years, freely available to anyone who cares to look for them, and yet, vast majority of people seem to find the entire issue ridiculous. At the very most, you might get some people to agree that it’s possible for statutory rape to be uncomfortable for the victim if the attacker is ugly, but apart from that, too many people seem to be completely in denial about the fact that this can either happen at all, or that it can happen between adults, or that it the man could possibly not have enjoyed it.
Seriously, just a couple quotes from the linked study would probably completely turn this guy’s, and the people’s who upvoted his comment, universe upside-down:
Our analysis also found that, among those reporting rape/sexual assault by a female perpetrator, 57.6% of male victims and 41.4% of female victims reported that the incident involved an attack, meaning the offender hit, knocked down, or otherwise attacked the victim. Of those who were attacked, 95.7% of male victims of female offenders and 47.0% of female victims of female offenders also reported that they were injured in the incident. No, female sexual assault is not harmless.
Perpetrator self-reports are also revealing. A 2012 study using data from the U. S. Census Bureau's nationally representative National Epidemiologic Survey on Alcohol and Related Conditions (NESARC, 2001-02) found in a sample of 43,000 adults little difference in the sex of self reported sexual perpetrators. Of those who affirmed that they had “ever force[d] someone to have sex … against their will,” 43.6% were female and 56.4% were male No, it is not rare.
A 2014 study of 284 men and boys in college and high school found that 43% reported being sexually coerced, with the majority of coercive incidents resulting in unwanted sexual intercourse. Of them, 95% reported only female perpetrators. The authors defined sexual coercion broadly, including verbal pressure such as nagging and begging, which, the authors acknowledge, increases prevalence dramatically (French, Tilghman, & Malebranche, 2014). But, the study also found that the resulting sexual activity was a more significant predictor of psychological distress and behavioral sequelae than the type of coercion tactic employed. Specifically, participants whose coercive experience resulted in intercourse showed greater subsequent sexual risk-taking and alcohol abuse, regardless of whether the incident involved force or only verbal coercion (French et al., 2014) Once again, it is not rare, nor is it harmless.
A 2013 survey of 1058 male and female youth ages 14–21 found that 9% self-reported perpetrating sexual victimization in their lifetime; 4% of youth reported perpetrating attempted or completed rape, which, again is defined to include any unwanted intercourse regardless of directionality (i.e., respondent reported that he/she “made someone have sex with me when I knew they did not want to”). While 98% of perpetrators who committed their first offence at age 15 or younger were male, by age 18–19 self-reports of perpetration differed little by sex: females comprised 48% of self-reported perpetrators of attempted or completed rape.
Females were also more likely to perpetrate against victims older than themselves (Ybarra & Mitchell, 2013) Not rare, and not just older woman raping younger boy.
In addition, a recent multiyear analysis of the BJS National Crime Victim Survey (NCVS) found no difference between male and female victims in the use of a resistance strategy during rape and sexual assault (89% of both men and women did so). A weapon was used in 7% of both male and female incidents, and although resultant injuries requiring medical care were higher in women, men too experienced significant injuries (12.6% of females and 8.5% of males). No, the men in those scenarios do not want it, yes, women do compensate for physical strength with weapons if needed, yes, males also get severely injured due to those assaults.