I remember arguing with a nonna on here who refused to believe me when I say that males ultimately crave to be raped.

I would even say that misogyny, at its core, is a man’s rebellion over the fact he isn’t worthy of rape, and his jealousy over women because thinks they are.
For troons, the solution is retarded yet fairly straightforward. He becomes rapable by becoming a woman. He becomes worthy. He is more worthy the more he can prove he is rapable, the more he proves he is a woman. Notice how TiMs only complain about being TiMs because when they feel unsexy (unrapable). Notice how TiMs only brag about being TiMs when they feel sexy (rapable). Even when they’re “complaining” about “being rapable” (literally), it’s a point of pride. Humble bragging over being “forced” into sex work and getting “unwanted” chaser attention, giggling and blushing over “validating misogyny” from “TIRMs”. In fact they even invent lies about lesbians and TERFs wanting to rape them, because that’s the best marker of success he can think of.
Moids are driven to create the conditions that best resemble him being raped. Since it’s impossible to command a woman’s will, he can never make her think “I want to rape him”. Typically, he substitutes her want for her need. He forces women to accept his role as “the provider”, and her helpless to resist. He fabricates the conditions required for a woman to depend on him for her survival (staying alive, since he can’t barter with his worthless gametes), where the default is for him to depend on her for his survival (reproduction). She now needs him, instead of him needing her. His power and resources become his coveted fertile womb. He’s necessary. He’s important. He’s so important and so necessary a women would die without him (he’ll make sure of that!)
His insistence that he should be rapable bleeds into all that he believes, or wants to believe. His sense of self, his ego, relies entirely on his ability to trick himself into thinking he is rapable. He wants to feel raped even while he is raping. The woman/child seduced him. She was asking for it. No, demanding it, and since he is helpless to his lust that she controls. She basically raped him.

It all comes down to rape, which is to say, being so necessary and important you inspire a want so commanding that others must take.