It's not a choice, yet gender is also fluid, some people's pronouns change over time, yet there's no wrong or right way to be trans, people know their "gender identity" from the age of 4, yet some don't realize it until they're 54, and on and on and on. There are so many loopholes in gender ideology, how do people take it seriously...
Itâs simple, really. Just donât think of being trans as an ideology. Also, trans people are very much not a monolith.
Some transgender people are binary trans (their gender identity is the opposite from the one corresponding to their birth sex). Others are non-binary. The only thing that definitionally unites people under the transgender umbrella is that theyâre not cisgender â that is, their gender identity does not entirely overlap with the one associated with their birth sex. Thatâs all. Whether their gender identity has fluidity or not doesnât matter there.
Also, note that what seems like gender fluidity â for instance, people changing the way they describe their gender identity â sometimes isnât necessarily that. Itâs often simply a case of them having come to understand themselves better, and having found better terms for what they are.
Gender identity isnât always simple and clear-cut. Sure, sometimes you have people who âalways knew, since they were 4 years oldâ, but for many others the realization was much more gradual, and they may come to an understanding much later in life. It depends on many factors: how strongly their gender identity âdeviatesâ from their birth sex, how much did they repress their gender identity, how many ârevelatoryâ experiences they went through, how they were raised, whether or not the people in their lives provide an affirming or repressive environment, whether the trans person knows of the concept of being transgender, whether they saw or met any trans people, etc.
Gender identity is not a choice, even for genderfluid people. They are who they are; if there was a way to willfully change oneâs basic gender identity, believe me, many people probably would, as it would make their lives a lot easier. What is partly a choice is gender presentation, that is, what gender-coded behaviors you exhibit (e.g. what clothes you wear).
So yeah, as I said, âtransgenderâ is not an ideology. Itâs an umbrella term used to describe a very varied group of people who share one basic trait. Beyond it, they differ from each other in many ways, and may have differing needs as well.
So many things I have heard men say that is sexism and misogyny, bit they can get away with it if they're "trans" or an "ally". Sexism in plain sight.
I call bullshit. If this happens (which you didnât provide examples of), itâs by no means common, and would be called out by most trans people themselves.
