Pronouns are basically used to control other people's thought processes, to instill both a sense of fear (OMG, what if I misgender someone!) and a false sense of security in them (I respect their pronouns, that means I am a good and aware person and the twanzes see me as an ally).
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There are those I refer to as ‘They’/’Them’ because I respect those people. They in turn can - in my instance - use the pronouns ‘Fish’/’Chips’ because I’m from Yorkshire, as I have a localised sense of humour, and I’m self -deprecating: even a stereotype such as that I can laugh at as I laugh at myself.
So many people can exert control over you as they refer to you as ‘Pillock’/’Wazzock’: as mockery has that effect on bigots.
“Pronouns are basically used to control other people's thought processes,”
“to instill both a sense of fear (OMG, what if I misgender someone!)”
“and a false sense of security in them (I respect their pronouns, that means I am a good and aware person and the twanzes see me as an ally).”
@TheKingOfRhye #251040
Exactly. I may not quite understand what it’s like to be transgender or genderfluid or non-binary, and I may sometimes slip and, for example, adress someone with a female sex with female pronouns by accident, but I don’t have to understand it just to show basic respect to people. If a person prefers to be adressed a certain way then who am I to say “no”?
I mean, if someone hates a common nickname for themselves, I’m not going to go out of my way to call them by that nickname… Even if said nickname is catchy. It’s just basic decency.
I get introduced to a lot of people across the gender spectrum.So I usually try to go with a neutral they/them until I know for sure what somebody prefers. But you know what happens when I accidentally misgender someone despite that? They politely correct me for a genuine mistake, I apologise, and then all is good. I'm not exactly living in fear here.
(In case anyone ever needed know, mine is the sound of a stuffy butler trying to get your attention. He/him)
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