If you have been dubbed an anti-gay person by the lavishly funded queer mafias known as “Big Gay,” you have likely earned the title by dissenting from some zany but chic policy like free transgender surgery for prisoners or global sperm banks for lesbian threesomes. No act of prudent common sense goes unpunished in this climate.
It helps to take stock of whom you’ve provoked. Gay adults generally underwent an extra layer of emotional development. One could apply the simple term “emotional intelligence.” They are more likely to have engaged in indirect gestures—whisper campaigns, reverse psychology, snooping, even manipulations. These tools were available to them when they could not rely on common assumptions with their peers.
Despite this emotional intelligence, their dating pool is small and unstable, rife with higher incidences of mental health issues (depression, anxiety, eating disorders, etc.) Gays are a major presence in the high and low echelons of society. Isolation and a high-drama social landscape fuel higher rates of addiction and self-destructive behavior in some. In others the old adage, “Whatever doesn’t kill me makes me stronger,” applies in full force.
Freed from the demands of a spouse and crying babies at home, for decades they were in work mode 24 hours a day. They could work extra hours, skip vacations, and throw all their emotional vitality into their jobs.
Male eros of all stripes has become warped by the worldwide Web. Imagine how this gets compounded for a small sexual minority. There are a fair number of lonely gay men whose pastimes include masturbating to pornography websites and commenting under pseudonyms. Naturally, not all gay men are like that, but the ones who aren’t like that won’t cross your paths from now on. You’ll largely be interacting with trolls, whose emotional bearings toward other people—both loving and hateful—consist of obsessing about strangers.