Our churches are filled with rebel females, who hide behind a cloak of religious devotion, pointing fingers at their imperfect husbands in a sinful attempt to hide their own sins and failures as wives. God pity the rebellious wife who drags her husband into court, while she wipes her own mouth saying, “I have done no wickedness!” Proverbs 30:20, “Such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness.” A wicked woman makes excuses for her failures, blaming her husband and magnifying his sins instead to whitewash hers, which God hates! I feel the same way as actor Bruce Willis (whose 13 year marriage to Demi Moore failed in 2000), who said he felt like a failure as a husband and a father. I think any good man would feel that way.
Kindly, for 18 1/2 frustrating years of marriage, my wife refused to open her mouth when I went to kiss with her, because she said she “didn't like germs.” How do you deal with something like that as a man who likes passionate kissing? It didn't matter if I used mouthwash, she has a disgust for kissing. Indeed, I was lonely all those years, without a real partner and lover for a wife. I am not saying she is a bigger sinner than me, but no man should have to be denied a kissing partner for a wife. That is the way of the slacker wife. We had romance problems since day one in 1987. God knows that I finally asked her to order some books about—“How To Physically Love A Man,” to help her, but she wouldn't order them. So I went and ordered the books myself for her, but she wouldn't read them. My parents went through Hades on earth, but they toughed it out, and stayed married for 36 years until my mother went to Heaven in 2001. I so much wanted to beat my parent's admirable 36 year record, but my spouse quit. Today, if she hadn't divorced me, we would have had 32 years together as husband and wife, but she quit in 2006. If you are reading this ladies and are married, learn from it! The sinful word “divorce” ought not even be in your vocabulary! YOU OBEY YOUR HUSBAND, AS UNTO THE LORD, AS THE HOLY BIBLE COMMANDS!
I love something that Pastor Jack Hyles (1926-2001) once said that I'll never forget—“First Baptist Church will become a great church when we stop saying, 'He has sinned!' and 'She has sinned!,' and we start saying 'WE HAVE SINNED!'” Yes Sir, that is my attitude too, as was also the psalmist in Psalms 106:6, “We have sinned with our fathers, we have committed iniquity, we have done wickedly.” Notice that three times the psalmist David acknowledged that WE HAVE SINNED! David did not esteem himself as being better than his ancestral fathers who went before him. David understood that we ought not judge others because they sin differently than we do. We are ALL woeful sinners! Romans 7:24, “O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death?”
That has always been my attitude toward my former wife, who sadly divorced me in 2006. Unfortunately, 13 years later she still esteems me as being a bigger sinner than herself, which hinders us from reuniting. One of my favorite sermons by Pastor Jack Hyles is titled, “The Good Man Versus The Spiritual Man,” about this very subject. I have tried repeatedly to get my former wife to listen to this sermon, but she refuses. I am a big sinner like anybody else, so I point no fingers. I always feel like I am the worst Christian on the planet. I love Brother Hyles so much for teaching me truths from the Bible that have helped me so much over the years. Dr. Hyles once said something (while I was sitting in the First Baptist Church of Hammond, on the back row, to brother Hyle's left—“The best Christian in this building tonight probably feels like the worst Christian here!” He got my attention with that statement, because it was exactly how I felt, and still do thirty years later! Who Is The Best Christian?