Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

How do these anti-parent voices penetrate through to our children? There are lots of vectors, it turns out: pornographic books in school libraries, drag queens teaching sex classes—even school assemblies featuring trans women, like at my son’s middle school.

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When the trans cloud struck him, he hated that he kept getting taller and we were no longer permitted to measure him. He loved video games and playing with his male friends. He never had female friends. I never imagined that there would be porn or trans ideas embedded into all these video games. How naive I was. It didn’t occur to me that anime would plant the next idea. I thought anime was innocent.

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I wish I could re-do the moments when trans first hit my household. I rehash everything that happened, but I did the best I could. There is no way to navigate something you were not prepared for. How could anyone be prepared for this? His reasons for saying he was trans made no sense to me and I pushed back. Besides, if I had pretended to go along with his new magical thinking—he would have known I wasn’t sincere. I also said no to him, but this NO to transition deemed me abusive, and reinforced the “no contact” idea in my son’s head.

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His reasons for saying he was trans made no sense to me and I shut my eyes, stuck a finger in each ear and shouted “LA LA LA LA LA LA LA LA!”

Parents like this don’t deserve children—and lord knows the children don’t deserve these parents.

When your child speaks their feelings to you and your immediate response is to deny their thoughts and feelings have any kind of validity and simply MUST have been “put there” rather than actually being something they think or feel the loss of contact is entirely on you because you made abundantly clear that the communication was already one-way only. You would not acknowledge a thought you would not permit them to have. So you need it to be someone’s “fault” and would rather cut your child out from the world so they wouldn’t know enough to form their own experience except what you dictate to them than actually make an effort to know and understand them as a person coming into their own.

You could have locked them in the basement from birth, been their only human contact straight through adulthood and you still wouldn’t know who they are. They still would but they wouldn’t know how to tell you except that they don’t like themselves and the feeling grows stronger the more they try to conform to who you say they are. The thoughts you wanted to keep from being “put” in their head originate there. You aren’t enough of a parent to actually see your child grow into a healthy adult, you just want them to do as you expect whether they like it or not because it challenges your *power* for anything else.

You drove home what this is really about with your own opening sentence: “anti-parent voices.” It isn’t about your child being “influenced” it’s about a loss of your power over them, the inability to veto not just their decisions and human rights but every facet of their life from their goals and hobbies to what company they keep. You cannot compel or frighten or threaten a person to not be themselves and that power over a child is how you percieve your legitimacy as a parent. You would rather lose the child than that power. Now you lose both. And frankly that’s the best outcome for everyone.

A parent with a trans child that they hate: “The Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans seek power entirely for its own sake. We are not interested in the good of our children, we are interested solely in power. We know that no one ever seizes power with the intention of relinquishing it. Power is not a means, it is an end. One does not establish a domestic dictatorship in order to safeguard one’s children; one has the children in order to establish the domestic dictatorship. The object of persecution is persecution. The object of torture is torture. The object of power is power. Now do you begin to understand me?”

Entirely beside the point, but PittParents ought to be a pit bull site.

So that's a site for shitty parents who stop loving their kids because they're trans.

@Passerby #192586

I am impressed by your cogent analysis of this form of parental toxicity, which I expect contributes to the suicide rate among transgender teens.

Sorry you can't accept your daughter for who she is. That's your problem, no one else's.