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Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Well, my world changed forever about two years ago when my smart, beautiful, self-confident, extraordinary girl crashed and burned in the next room and was “saved” by a transgender identity. Yes, my girl, with no history of issues with being a girl, suddenly decided that her whole life had been a lie, a secret, and that she “had always known but was too afraid to say anything”.

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When she threatened to harm herself to get out of a girl’s soccer game, I told her I would have to take her to the psych ward if she made good on that threat. We went to gender therapists, met with specialists, consulted with cult experts. My husband called twenty psychologists, most of whom told us that she was unlikely to change her mind. I attributed this to the recent passage of a bill in my state that forbade discussion of gender identity with minors.

My husband really wanted to go Full Hungarian (a phrase that came out of a support group for parents like us where one mother, a Hungarian woman, didn’t give into anything and actively badgered her kid until she desisted). Based on all the people we had met with, that was unlikely to work and would very likely strain our relationship
with her. Things kept ramping up and I became overwhelmed with managing my spouse, my younger child and pretending everything was normal to our friends, despite the obvious and sudden change in our daughter's appearance.

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I am not trying to be dramatic or play the victim card. I am just expressing what this experience feels like firsthand, for all of those people who have no idea. It feels like she is edging closer to death every day that her 18th birthday draws nearer. Death by Testosterone. Death by double mastectomy. Death by self-annihilation. It is unbearable to think about the future. It turns out that my prayers were ignored.

Unnamed PITT narcissist #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

The county of Los Angeles has just agreed to pay $4 billion to settle 6,800 claims of childhood sexual abuse that allegedly occurred inside its juvenile facilities and foster homes. It’s the largest sex abuse settlement in US history1

What could this mean for us, the truth-telling parents of trans-identified kids?

LA didn’t set out to hurt these kids; their crime was one of omission, of failing to check carefully enough.

Compare and contrast: today it is the deliberate, explicit, gleeful policy of The State of California (and other states, including NY and CO) to hide and enable and assist in harming trans-identified kids. They passed laws to make it a crime not to aid in trans-ing a kid. These states threaten to remove kids from their loving families and put them… into foster care.

Foster kids were among the first to receive “gender-affirming care.” How could this happen? Germany has asked this question regarding the Kentler Project, which from the 1970s through 1990s intentionally placed foster kids with known pedophiles who’d love and understand them. (Does this sound to you like the glitter families of today?)

A century ago, fueled by the exciting and idealistic new fake science of eugenics, progressives in CA carried out state-sponsored, legal, compulsory sterilizations. There were no significant consequences. Let’s not repeat that mistake under today’s exciting and idealistic new fake science of gender theory.

Like many of you, I dream of the day we see the Nuremberg-style trials of gender criminals. In the original Nuremberg Trials, American judges hanged doctors for crimes that included performing experimental medical procedures without informed consent.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

What could this mean for us, the truth-telling parents of trans-identified kids?

LA didn’t set out to hurt these kids; their crime was one of omission, of failing to check carefully enough. Compare and contrast: today it is the deliberate, explicit, gleeful policy of The State of California (and other states, including NY and CO) to hide and enable and assist in harming trans-identified kids. They passed laws to make it a crime not to aid in trans-ing a kid. These states threaten to remove kids from their loving families and put them… into foster care.

[...]

Hmm...

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

In the near future…..

A local office of the American Academy of Pediatrics is in crisis. The building is surrounded by an angry crowd. The director of the office yells for his assistant. “Terry, get in here! Who are all those demonstrators? The building is surrounded!”

“Doctor - It’s the FBI. They are demanding entrance to our office. Our security guard has stopped them for the moment, but they will be here any minute. They want to see you. There are also members of the press and parents of some of our patients. The parents are carrying signs that say, ‘Stop Transing Our Kids’.”

The doctor froze and immediately went pale. “Oh my god…Help me shred the records of all our trans patients. We can’t have any incriminating evidence in our offices. Get online and start deleting the electronic records of all trans kids.”

“I’m sorry doctor; our internet connection has been severed and cell phone service is blocked. We can’t access our electronic records.”

“Oh, that’s terrible! Well at least we can shred these paper records.”

“Doctor, why are you destroying the records of all our trans patients?”

“The gender treatments and experiments on children overseen by the American Academy of Pediatrics have never been shown to help children. We keep sponsoring studies, but the studies never show positive results. In fact, children are always much worse after our treatments.

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A few minutes later, FBI agents carry boxes of documents out of the building. The rest of the crowd starts to get agitated. People start yelling, “Lock up the AAP doctors!”. The crowd cheers. Children everywhere are safer now that the doctors are being taken away.

EyesOpen #conxpiracy #transphobia pittparents.com

I have been troubled for several years now as I have heard story after story of parent-child estrangements. In particular, I’m concerned about the surge in estrangements that stem from kids who are taught that going “no contact” is an appropriate “punishment” for parents who hold a different perspective or can’t be controlled under the new rules the kids are dictating in the family dynamics.

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She [Rachel Haack, an online therapist] goes on to say that she sees it in the way people talk about parents now, “not as human beings with flaws and histories, but as emotional liabilities. ‘My mom is so toxic.’ ‘My dad’s a narcissist.’ Every difficult relationship gets pathologized. Every mistake gets turned into a trauma label.”

[Haack]

How is it that so many kids have seemingly ingested this concept and have such negative attitudes toward their parents? Were they given a playbook promoting that perspective? What are the deeper causations or motives in devaluing parents and potentially discarding family relationships?

[more Haack]

Sometimes, estrangement is the best option to break a cycle of abuse. But now, it is also used as a method to cut off discomfort and conversations that are hard and take courage. Now, loving parents are lumped in with truly abusive parents. “They all just need to go!” might be the motto. “And also discard grandparents, aunts, uncles, and the whole family. Choose a better one!”

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And now, I will dip my toe in the water of what gender ideology has done to families worldwide. Many still do not understand this ideology’s far-reaching impact on the parent-child bond and family structure. […] It seems to be a badge of honor to disown one’s parents for their lack of affirmation for cross-sex identification. Why are some groups within the fields of law, education, and medicine—who believe in gender ideology—taking away the rights and undermining the abilities of parents to protect their children? […] Who gains from isolating and manipulating the child?

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

When reading “Oh Where, Oh Where Has My Little Dog Gone?” by Iza Trapani to our grandson, I was struck by the similarities to our son’s estrangement. Below is a revision with the same happy ending we long for and the cycle we so often see.

Oh, where, oh where has my lovely son gone?
Oh where, oh where can he be?
With his hair grown long and his life cut short,
Oh where, oh where can he be?

Perhaps I shouldn’t have questioned him when
He said he was not my son.
But I had to stand for what’s right and wrong.
And abide true to the One.

His feelings must have been terribly hurt.
His heart was filled with dismay.
So he grabbed his phone and his laptop too,
And then my son ran away.

Some PITT-y partier #dunning-kruger #transphobia pittparents.com

Yes, Mothers Do Know Best
A Quick Guide to Helping Your Child Desist

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You know your child best. If you feel that the recent months or years have weakened your good relationship with your child, drop everything and work on rebuilding it—it requires a focused effort, but it is not as difficult as you think. Remember that despite appearances, your child still needs his or her mom more than you think. Having an upset teen doesn’t mean that the core of your relationship is broken.

Your child is going through a normal unhappy adolescence and is attempting to individuate. The good thing is that this is all normal and healthy and thus will pass when this developmental phase evolves into the next. The bad thing is that the individuation via transgender identity is a maladaptive coping strategy and the entire world seems to affirm the delusion. This complicates things. Don’t get discouraged when your child doesn’t listen to facts and calls you transphobic. Teens all think that they know better, and while incredibly annoying, this is developmentally normal.

For goodness sake, do talk to your child about the facts. Yes, they will cry, yell, storm out, shut down, call your names—at first. This doesn’t mean that you should be tiptoeing around those big feelings and waiting until your child will magically realize they have been misled by a cult. They need the facts about biological reality like they need air. Their initial emotional reaction is entirely normal and this doesn’t mean that sharing facts is ineffective, unproductive, and should be avoided. Remember that your child still implicitly trusts you. They are still subconsciously immersed in the feeling that you are their Entire Universe. Your child will not change his or her mind based on a single video that you might share, but without this video or that article there will be no growth and no foundation on which to build their path to desistance.

Unnamed PITT narcissist #fundie #transphobia pittparents.com

Attention: […] “professionals” who employ junk science and false claims to justify the barbaric practice of chemically castrating and surgically maiming children; […] – Get ready! […] Pam Bondi and the Department of Justice are coming for you!

On April 22, 2025, AG Bondi released a memorandum

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She reveals that every day she hears “harrowing stories” of the suffering caused by the “unconscionable ideology behind ‘gender-affirming care’” and promises that under her leadership “the Department of Justice will bring these practices to an end”.

AG Bondi promises to:

I. Direct all U.S. Attorneys to investigate all suspected cases of female genital mutilation performed under the banner of so-called “gender affirming care” or otherwise, and to prosecute all offenses to the fullest extent possible.

II. Investigate and hold accountable medical providers and pharmaceutical companies that mislead the public about the long-term side effects of chemical and surgical mutilation.

III. Identify and purge all Department policies, memoranda, and publications and court filings based on WPATH guidelines.

IV. Launch the Attorney General’s Coalition Against Child Mutilation and partner with state attorney’s general to identify leads, share intelligence, and build cases against hospitals and practitioners violating federal or state laws banning female genitalia mutilation and other, related practices.

V. Instruct the Office of Legislative Affairs to draft legislation creating a private right of action for children and the parents of children whose healthy body have been damaged and establish a long statute of limitations and retroactive liability, so that no one providing “treatment” will escape liability.

PITT Parents, could it be that this is the moment when the tide finally turns once and for all? […] Will our children finally understand that our actions are based in unconditional love for them? Do we dare hope that, at long last, this barbaric medical scandal will come to an end?

Another PITT-y partier #transphobia #crackpot pittparents.com

While I may be a TERF, I did not make this up. A quarter of the girls in my kid’s class identify as boys. One of them has had four names this year, all from anime series.

I keep seeing people say, both on the hell-site Twitter and in the popular media, that the trans population is a tiny minority, less than 0.1% of the population. If that is true, what is going on at my child’s school?

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The first issue is with what the school is teaching children. My daughter’s trans identity started when the school taught a module on ‘identity’ during which they told a group of 11-year-olds that, if you feel uncomfortable in your body, it means you are transgender. My daughter had just had her first period two months prior to this class. Of course she was feeling uncomfortable in her body. She went home, looked up ‘transgender’ on Tiktok, and that was it. She was now trans.

The second issue is a related one, and that is to do with the school’s non-stop celebration of LGBTQI+ identities. […] But in the last two to three years, this has meant a relentless stream of identity flags and rainbows. […] I’m no prude, but I also don’t think a constant parade of sexual politics is appropriate for such young children.

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([…] My child’s name and pronouns were changed by the school without my knowledge. We didn’t get so much as a phone call […])

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When I spoke to the school about the harm they are doing, they would not hear it. They told me that they celebrate all identities, that they pride themselves on being inclusive. They cannot see the transgender issue as anything other than fun flags and inclusivity and respect. They do not see the dark side that we parents do: [made-up gore].

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“I guess in the 90s, a lot of us were in anorexic friend groups,” said one mother. […] No school celebrated anorexia. But this time, the doctors and schools are helping the anorexics to diet.

LostMum, Anon, PhDBiologistMom #transphobia #wingnut #fundie pittparents.com

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(LostMum)
Please, send some common sense to Australia, we're always the last to the party!! And yes, it's a wonderful change of tack but too late for all the children who what been harmed and for the families that have been broken

(Anon)
Feel for you, I am so saddened when I read about Australia’s journey in this mess. You have a fight on your hands.

(PhDBiologistMom)
Canada too.

(Anon)
So that has been interesting. Perhaps I’ve done some good today. In researching the Carney kids on Grok their AI was using they/them pronouns. My comments about implied bias about which there is no universal consensus have been flagged. They tailored their responses for me specifically to avoid using pronouns altogether. My feedback is that Grok adopts this as a default approach for any user. In using they/them they are taking sides. I wish to advocate for truth, not preference

(Anon)
Yup..for years now. So sorry.

(PhDBiologistMom)
Oh I’m not there. But I read about it. And of course the new PM has a child who’s been sucked into the whole thing.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

The point is, we're deluded if we think that we're any better or more inherently moral than anyone living in the Aztec Empire or Norse Scandinavia a thousand years ago. But we are better than them, right? We must be! In a way, maybe. We understand that throwing infants off of cliffs or cutting the hearts out of hundreds of people isn't going to ensure that the sun won't disappear forever below the horizon and the rains will return. But being virtually the same as them, what are we doing now that's equally as irrational and destructive as our ancestors? Aren't we essentially sacrificing some not insignificant proportion of our children to equally amorphous and unknowable gods? The God/Goddess/They-ness of Gender is something that, if you ask ten different gender ideologues what it is, you will get ten different answers, none of them making any sense.

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What difference is there between some child bravely declaring their willingness to have their heart cut out or their throat slit to appease Huitzilopochtli and some teen “bravely” going under the knife to appease some ill-defined, ineffable Gender God and then dancing around in a Tic-Tok video showing off their mastectomy scars? I don't see much of a difference at all. And the people doing the sacrificing this time around are spouting the same nonsense and thinking the same irrational thoughts the priests in the temples were thinking in the past, that they are sacrificing the child's body to save their soul. Sure, the one in the past would be good and dead after the deed was done, but the modern one, maybe after having their puberty disrupted, and looking forward to a lifetime of subservience to Big Pharma and probably more surgeries, loss of fertility and sexual pleasure. Haven't they entered a kind of living-death netherworld?

Society is slowly waking up to this reality, but very slowly in the U.S., and I worry that the recent gains in stopping this sort of sacrificing of children are going to drive the “affirming therapists” and their criminal surgical compatriots underground. It's not as preposterous as it might sound. Look at the “timeline of ritual human sacrifice” and how it extends into our present time, it's like they just can't help it. Some people just feel the urge to kill some other people for nebulous reasons.

Suzie Homemaker, Beeswax, Hippiesq, conversations4growth #fundie #wingnut #transphobia pittparents.com

(Suzie Homemaker)
The mental manipulation and gaslighting is so abusive and demented. I don’t know what happened to parents who do this, but it’s a mental health crisis for more than the children caught up in this net. These parents are deranged and ideologically captured by a lie.

(Suzie Homemaker)
I understand that it can be challenging to question expert advice, especially when it comes from professionals we’re expected to trust. [...] The responsibility rests solely with us as parents to advocate for our children’s well-being. And those parents who have failed to do so, those who offer “I was just following the experts” as an excuse for their abdication of this great moral responsibility will find that history has proven such to be inexcusable, unforgivable.

(Beeswax)
…especially when the experts tell you your child will definitely kill himself if you don’t accommodate his need to change his “gender.” Proof, anyone? I thought not.

There’s nothing more evil and effective than the suicide myth.

(Suzie Homemaker)
I couldn’t agree more. The suicide line is pure propaganda and gaslighting, nothing more than blatant fear-mongering, as the actual SCIENCE says the exact opposite. Kids are MORE likely to commit suicide when medically affirmed than not.

(Beeswax)
[long winded ad for another detranser]

(Suzie Homemaker)
In deed, she has a powerful voice and message. And many more like her are beginning to rise and find their voices.

(Hippiesq)
"Just following the experts" is way too close to "just following orders," and doesn't sit well with me.

(Suzie Homemaker)
Absolutely agree!

(conversations4growth)
I think doctors and psychologists happened, along with documentaries like the one mentioned. We are taught to trust science, doctors, and psychologists. [...] Some know better and lied for personal gain. Others may think they are doing the right thing. I do also think this is tied to other cultural things that seem related to a certain extent, although less extreme. [...]

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

It's been nearly six years since my daughter's announcement. For four years before that, there had been a drastic change in her attitude, her appearance, her interests. She has spent half of her life being one person, and half being another. It destabilized me for a long time.

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In April 2023, a month before she turned 20, she took her first shot of testosterone. My anxiety, bordering on panic, became a deep depression. Now, every time she speaks, her once-beautiful voice cracks like a teenage boy. I wince every time I hear it. People have noticed. She's probably noticed. I'm OK with that. I get to be in pain, too, and my pain matters. I have no idea what parts of her future she's taken away by this decision, but I wonder, and it makes me so desperately sad.

The election of Donald Trump gave me a small boost that sense would finally arrive. I had, however, been demoralized by a decade of having my reality turned upside down, my language policed, my parental agency robbed, and watching an entire culture, particularly the college-indoctrinated waters that I somewhat swim in, cheer the whole thing on as if my destruction and that of my beloved daughter constituted cause for celebration. I didn't really believe change would happen. One month has changed me.

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Now, when family members, friends and acquaintances rail against Trump, I point out that it's he, not the Democratic Party, who is trying to protect young people from medical experimentation and long-term harm. I point out that this sinister medical regime only exists because of the patronage and protection of the Democrats. I understand that Trump is polarizing, has not lived a virtuous private life, and has said and done things, and stands for things that I and many others don’t care for. Yet I voted for one reason: to protect my daughter and thousands of other young people from this dark period in the history of medicine.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

I have endured four birthdays since my son was seduced by the heinous trans cult at 19. On his twenty-third birthday, my husband was unaware of this special day we shared. I did not remind him about his son's birthday, as I knew it would heighten his daily pain and anger. So for the day that would have been celebratory in a sane world, I shouldered alone my tender grief. The birthday of my son is also my birth - day. Along with my son, my memory has been stolen of the joyous welcoming of my healthy infant son. As this essay elequently expresses, for PITT parents there are jolts of even more pain throughout the years that are visceral markers of our cruel alienation from a precious child with whom we once shared a loving relationship. Our primal ambiguous loss is beyond sad.

“Reality check” #fundie #transphobia pittparents.com

For the last four years it has felt like my children and I are living in completely different worlds. What started with the difference of opinion during COVID quickly escalated into the realization that we had developed totally opposing world views.

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Time passed and things seems to be on the road to healing in my family, right up until spring of 2023 when a whole new nightmare appeared in my life with the sudden announced from my only son that he is “trans”! He told me that he discovered his new gender identity two years before, during lockdown in 2021, and he was quickly affirmed by his two proud, politically queer, social justice warrior sisters.

I was shocked! My first thought was maybe he is confused about his sexuality. To my knowledge he has never been kissed. Between his awkward autistic personality and COVID isolation at a time when he should have been experiencing his sexual awaking while away at university, he has faced unfair challenges. But to decide he is a girl trapped in his healthy male body, that is IMPOSSIBLE.

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Being told the bizarre impossibility that someone may have been “born in the wrong body”, and that it is just some kind of explainable, natural progression in human evolution is ridiculous! As is being told that you're a hateful bigot unless you affirm, accept, celebrate and go with the flow.

I really hadn't given this nonsense a whole lot of thought until it was standing in front of me in my kitchen, informing me that this is just how the world is now. My first reaction was “Don't be ridiculous, God doesn't put people in the wrong body!”

PITT narcissist #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

Honestly, we don't know what happened. […] I found he had a bag of girl’s clothes belonging to his sister and me. This was our first real red flag. His Dad and I sat him down to talk and eventually he said he wanted to be a girl. This was completely out of left field as he had never acted feminine or shown interest in feminine things.

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Our degrees in Nursing and Psychology didn't prepare us for this blatant disregard of basic science. […] attempting to find counseling that wasn't affirming or even trying to congratulate us on our "newly awoken daughter". We finally discovered a ROGD support group and found a local psychologist for our son to speak with weekly.

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Should we had been harsher? Taken away all his communication?

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He would see the world is big and wonderful and life was just beginning! Two days later, around one in the morning, I got up to use the bathroom. His bedroom light was on, and I opened the door to turn it off. He was gone. […] His window was open, and he had somehow evaded the front porch camera.

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Both of their children were "different", their daughter even wanted to be a cat. I remember feeling so violated, so sick to my stomach, that two self-proclaimed "Christian" people would find their actions not only acceptable but laudable. I know what hate really is now.

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I tried to fight the school system […] After all, Meghan worked for the system...how is it okay for her to groom an underage child to fool his parents and set up a totally new future? […] I tried the court system. Maybe I could have him declared incompetent? The appointed lawyer for Jake painted a picture of suppression of his feelings and wants, basically saying we were poor parents.

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I haven't been well in a long time. […] I lost 20 pounds. I will admit that I think about just being done with life. [...] Nothing changes and the little boy in the pictures on my walls and on my phone keeps smiling. And a piece of me dies each day.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

In addition, gender confusion is ubiquitous on the internet, children’s TV programs and story time at the local library. Will this new generation get indoctrinated at an even younger age than my kids were? How do we undo these ideas once implanted in my grandkid’s minds? It is so concerning. The trans agenda is already infecting the next generation.

How can I handle this psychologically? I now have even more eggshells to walk on. Listening to my other kids refer to their younger brother with his new legal, female name is quite distressing. Having his older sister and brother-in-law (both of whom he admires) affirm his delusion is already heartbreaking for me. But their son doing the same is even worse. Moving this mass hysteria into the next generation of my family feels almost unbearable. This is another big step in erasing my son. Certainly, it is a big step toward rewriting my family history.

I have struggled through these awful years to hang onto my son’s existence in my own mind. Despite his appearance, name change, and affirmation from those around him I have been able to hold onto a sliver of the boy I raised. I am so scared that the sliver will slip away and the hole in my life, in the shape of my son will widen. I should be able to enjoy my precious grandchildren without sadness and resentment. If they are forced by their parents to refer to my son with his trans identity then I’m in a situation where being with them becomes painful. How sad is that?

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

[From an article about the author's trans daughter, who moved in with an affirming family at 18]

Over the next couple of months, we learned that this family had relocated to another city. Our son was now sharing a room with their son and had plans to go to a budget college in state that they had helped him to apply for, including filling out the FAFSA. He didn't have his car or cell phone, and he was only communicating with his brother and friends. We also learned that these friends were more aware of the situation than we knew and that the family we saw as friends (we had helped them financially, with rides from school, with yard work just weeks before they sold their home), had been grooming Jake for almost a year. Both of their children were "different", their daughter even wanted to be a cat. I remember feeling so violated, so sick to my stomach, that two self-proclaimed "Christian" people would find their actions not only acceptable but laudable. I know what hate really is now. I don't know why God allowed this.

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I haven't been well in a long time. I saw my doctor and got medicine. It doesn’t seem to help but, hey, I lost 20 pounds. I will admit that I think about just being done with life. I'm honestly tired. My husband and daughter want me to let him go. My son says he tells Jake that I love him, but he won’t let me speak directly to Jake or meet up with them if Jake happens to be in town. Nothing changes and the little boy in the pictures on my walls and on my phone keeps smiling. And a piece of me dies each day.

A grief-stricken mother #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

[From a publicly released letter to a Father James Martin]

When I read Building a Bridge in 2017, I had only a vague understanding of trans ideology, much less for “queer”. Since then, I have learned more than I ever wanted to know about this topic because my young adult son with mental health issues now identifies as trans.

I belong to a support group for parents of trans-identified young adult males. All the parents love their children, some use their son’s new name, a few even use preferred pronouns, others provide financial support. No one has disowned their child, although their children may have gone no contact. Our sons are almost universally brilliant, many are on the autism spectrum, and some suffer from ADHD, social anxiety, body dysmorphia, and/or depression; all of which have gone untreated as doctors push “gender affirming care”.

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The parents know that our sons are victims of the biggest medical scandal of our lifetime.

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For queer theory, what is considered “normal” in society is actually oppressive, and true freedom requires breaking out of these oppressive norms”. Q is thus anti-family because we live in a society where families are normative.

[…] Psychologists who work in this space explain that when they treat homosexuals, they often focus on self-acceptance. However, patients who identify as transgender are encouraged to change everything about themselves, but they will fail because no one can truly change their sex. Worse, this medicalization does not even provide relief from gender dysphoria and diagnostic overshadowing means the underlying mental health conditions go untreated.

I do believe that we should respect the civil rights of transgender people without encouraging them down this pathway. [...] They should be welcomed in the Catholic Church, which teaches that the soul and body are inseparable.

[Advertising the PITT substack]

Suffering Mother #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I too thought my son was going thru an adolescent phase trying on his sisters clothes when we were not home. I didn’t seek psychological help because I thought it would blow over. He was such a manly guy. Tall, big chin, size 12 shoe, hairy body and sported a beard a few times. It never entered my mind he could go down this route I didn’t even know anything about “trans” ! Like your son he was handsome and very smart. Or at least I thought he was smart and raised a Catholic. Everyday I ask myself where did I go wrong? I do blame myself, maybe it was the divorce or something else I did. Going thru this all these years with no one to depend on has truly broken me. I haven’t remarried and spend my days wondering why? Why my family? My daughter got Type 1 diabetes at age 3, was that not enough pain for our family?

My son has rejected me again after a brief stint at Thanksgiving when I thought he was coming back. But he’s gone now and I don’t even know where he lives. Frankly I’m just so tired emotionally, physically and mentally. I can’t live the rest of my days overcome with sadness. I’m glad you have a husband and other children to lean on . My daughter has enabled my son’s delusion because she doesn’t want to lose him. But I could never speak an untruth just to make someone stick around even my biological son. I won’t contribute to his delusions even if it means not seeing him ever again. He made these choices, not me. He chose to go against God and run with demons. I can only pray for him and pray to St Monica to ask for intercession to send someone else to talk him back to sanity. He won’t listen to me.

A transphobic mom #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

I have a son who’s been struggling with his gender identity. He claims that “he’s always known” that he is a girl. The rest of us are more than skeptical. My son is an awkward kid — albeit bright, compassionate, and sensitive. He’s also always been a boy – he was unambiguously born that way. As far as stereotypical behaviors go, he fits the profile of a boy as well <…> there were no signs of gender dysphoria at all.

He’s also never seemed confused about his sexuality. He’s been chasing girls since puberty, sending them texts, surprising them at their lockers with flowers and a Homecoming invite. He’s always been open about wanting a girlfriend and he always shared his crushes with me and his dad. Sadly, his crushes have been unrequited, and he’s been consistently relegated to friendzone status, even though all of his girl friends just “adore” him.

So, what’s a passionate, sweet, awkward boy to do? Try whatever it takes to get out of the friendzone and to get those girl friends’ attention! It started with one text to one of his closest girl friends; “I think I might have gender dysphoria”. At first, she ignored him - no reaction. So, he upped the ante, following up with a request to take him shopping for some dresses. Bingo! He had her attention. Teen girls just love a project! She applauded his choice and convinced him that he really was a girl.

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Now we, his family, are left to help sort out this discarded young man’s distress. <…> And, now, having tasted the poison, my son wants more. Furthering the abusive pattern, he jumped back in, this time with a new cheerleader. Still in search of what started all of this…the attention of a girl.

Meanwhile, my son clings to this new approach, believing that being a girl is the only way to relate to the girls he’d love to attract. <…> Leading him to believe he’s something he can never become, and making him believe that a dress and a bra transitions him to become a female.

Anon #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

[Posted by the parent of a living trans child]

Of late, I have been wanting to ‘bury’ my son. I’m not quite sure what I mean by this. Perhaps it will be that I put all his things in a box…& make it a place I go to when I think of him. He’s not coming back, so I might as well remember him as he was. He’s was a wonderful person, I have no clue who he is anymore

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Our oldest has fallen so far away from the family that he causes much stress. Stress over whether or not to invite him to gatherings, whether or not he will come, whether or not we will offend him (spoiler, we will), whether or not I will have to ask him to leave, whether or not I will be able to function to attend other gatherings after seeing him. All of this stress makes the holidays a time I want to escape.

So, we did. The four of us went on the vacation that we had planned for the five of us. We were incomplete.

We enjoyed the ocean and all its power but missed the excitement that he has for marine life. We encountered vibrant birds and unique mammals but missed his knowledge of animals to explain the details of each creature. We toured ancient ruins and learned about civilizations past, but I found myself longing for his inquisitiveness. The meals together, laughter, and new inside jokes are all memories to cherish. But something is missing from it all.

He was supposed to be with us. He was supposed to be a part of the memories. He was supposed to bond with us. It was supposed to be our one big vacation before they all start going their own ways in life.

But he has already gone his own way. In fact, "he" doesn't even exist right now. "He" believes he is a "she." How can I both miss him and need to escape him? I guess it is him I miss and "her" I need to escape.

Grandma Eileen #transphobia #fundie #conspiracy pittparents.com

The transgender ideology IS indeed an evil cult. I looked up the definition for cult: "A cult is a group requiring unwavering devotion to a set of beliefs and practices which are considered deviant outside the norms of society, which is typically led by a charismatic and self-appointed leader (Satan????) who tightly controls its members. It is in some contexts a pejorative (expressing contempt or disapproval) term, also used for new religious movements and other social groups which are defined by their unusual religious, spiritual, or philosophical beliefs and rituals, or their common interest in a particular person, object, or goal. This sense of the term is weakly defined – having divergent (to be different or develop in different directions) definitions both in popular culture and academia – and has also been an ongoing source of contention (heated disagreement) among scholars across several fields of study. " I was a bit surprised how closely this "cult" definition sums up the transgender ideology!

In many ways we are all living our own Hell on Earth. Just listen to any news station and the evil in this world is everywhere. Our own government is at war amongst itself, there is no peace on our land. Senseless killings, attempted assassinations, sex trafficking, kidnappings, rapes, and high crime is an everyday issue. This is all due to evil mindedness as the devil himself has poisoned the minds and souls of so many people. Look at the homeless population problems in every city, with so many people mentally ill, or drug addicts and alcoholics. Satan once again has his evil hand in all of this to keep people in bondage. Now we have transgender ideology flooding our world and influencing our youth and stealing the innocent lives of our once healthy and happy children. Satan has once again come up with a new scheme to destroy mankind.

Un-silent #biphobia pittparents.com

My daughter also went to 8 years of Catholic school then entered charter high school. She had some difficulty with a boyfriend who went trans so I transferred her to another school. She was doing well till she started getting into anime and furry groups post graduation and then attended a city college. After that she started becoming more distant and finally told me she was bi-sexual, when I refused to go along she cut communications with me. That was 2 and a half years ago. It seems like a bad dream, we used to be so close.

Lisa Shultz #transphobia pittparents.com

Many people have thrown their hands in the air in exasperation at keeping up with all the letters in the ever-growing LGBTQ+ alphabet. Perhaps the images of “drag queen reading hour” for kindergarten kids didn’t sit right with you. Maybe seeing boys and men on podiums receiving winning medals in girls’ and women’s sporting events seemed off. Perhaps it felt awkward to interact with the coffee shop’s male barista with lipstick, eye shadow, and breasts, and you sensed his smirk was possibly from deriving pleasure at your discomfort.

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I miss the time when …

· it was possible to hear my daughter’s natural voice and laugh
· I could call my daughter by her name
· people didn’t demand that I lie about the reality of my daughter’s birth sex as female and try to force me to collude with the falsehood that she is a male
· gaslighting of my experience of giving birth to and raising two females wasn’t normalized
· people didn’t stop talking to me because I didn’t believe my daughter was a male
· friends and relatives didn’t walk away from me when I needed them most
· my daughter’s birth certificate was a truthful document
· my role as a mother wasn’t undermined, and my knowledge and wisdom were respected
· I was valued for the quality of my character and my solid history of responsible parenting

Suffering Mother #transphobia pittparents.com

On my flight to Virginia a person appeared in front of me that looked so much like my son. I almost got up and talk to them. It was a tall woman dressed in a mini skirt, long legs with tie up boots on And mid length hair and they stood right in front of me about 12 feet away looking at the board for the airline flight and I kept looking and looking and thinking its my son is ? I couldn’t bring myself to get up. I was frozen Then they ran away to the back and looked my way and then went way over the other side and sat. I kept looking because I had a weird feeling that it was my son and I did not recognize him dressed as a woman. This has been tearing me apart ever since this happened. I asked my daughter to ask him if it was him she said he said it wasn’t but I don’t believe him because he’s been a liar all his life. He wrote me after that and said that he hadn’t left Oakland since two or three years and if it was him, he wouldn’t have run away from me well, I don’t believe him. I think it was him. And I didn’t recognize my own son! I noticed the chin I noticed the way he looked the way he acted, but I was frozen. I couldn’t do anything and I don’t know why. My whole point is this is hurt me much more than I want it to.

Lisa Guadagna #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I have a trans son who claims to be a girl. We see him for dinner every month and I always get in trouble for using the wrong pronouns. Although I voted for Trump for this and for MAHA. Trans ideas of injecting and swallowing all kinds of substances and not even questioning if that is healthy is sinister. I also voted for trump because of the dictatorial powers in forcing injections to keep a job and hen my eyes were opened to media propaganda. Yes I am beginning to read about cults because the trans ideology has so many of those characteristics. By understanding their techniques I am better equipped to fight.

Katharina #transphobia pittparents.com

I live in an extremely "progressive" (obviously the word doesn't mean what it used to) California town. Our doctors office is covered with trans flags and offers for gender counseling. It makes me literally sick. I've written about it on their Yelp review page and comment forms. Unfortunately it's the only local clinic currently taking our insurance. We use it very rarely, but it's still maddening. Recently, I went to another practice, dermatology, for my yearly skin check. The dermatologist brought in a student who was trailing her and asked if "she" could be there. I barely glanced at her and thought it was a woman. However as we went through the exam I noticed the student was wearing a trans flag pin, was much taller than average, and had *very* large feet. I began to get anxious, wondering if this was actually a man with us. I had to open my gown so she could check my front and felt extremely uncomfortable. I didn't know what to do - could I say "hey, are you a dude?"? - so I finished the appointment. Afterwards, when I caught the doctor in the hall, I explained my reservations and asked if the student was a woman or trans woman. She got super irritable with me and said, "a woman!" Being in California, I'll never really know what that meant, and it wouldn't surprise me at all if they let a trans " woman" work with them and called him a woman. Extremely disturbing, I still feel violated.

Cookie #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

["TI" = "trans-identifying"]

My husband and I have always maintained our TI daughter has been ‘invaded’ by Satan, the devil himself and we told her that a few times. She doesn’t agree but she doesn’t fight with us, either.

Mark Anderson Smith #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

If your child identifies as trans, you are not alone. There are thousands of parents in similar situations in the UK and perhaps tens of thousands around the world. Most of us are struggling. Most of us find ourselves unable to accept what is obviously not true. We desperately do not want our child to harm themselves. Although in recent months – as I write this in early 2024 – there has been a slight change in public perceptions, still there are a large number of people who are highly influential in the media insisting that the response to trans identity should be to accept and celebrate it. Politicians, journalists, even medical professionals. How can all these people not see what we see – our child, the child we always knew? How can they claim the impostor is the real person?

If you’ve seen those David Tennant episodes, you’ll know that there is an opportunity for reconciliation, for two orphans to find each other and be a family again. Then the twist. The knife in the back. Professor Yana is revealed as the Doctor’s sworn enemy: the Master. The Doctor is not the last of the Time Lords, Yana is an acronym for You Are Not Alone. I’ll share later of an experience we had, someone who claimed to be there to help and I now think was a threat to our family. It is such a betrayal to think someone is on your side and then to find out they never were.

Throughout this nightmare we have been living, for over two and a half years now, there has been someone who has been faithful, who has been by our side the whole way, comforting us, giving us courage to continue, our Father in heaven.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger pittparents.com

I recently tried to have The Talk. As a lifelong liberal Democrat, most people in my social circle are also liberal Democrats. Most of them don’t know my son is trans identifying. That is, I haven’t made any mention of it. I. Do. Not. Talk. About. It.

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The first time was a few years ago, when my friend L. was reminiscing about our shared love for Harry Potter. She brought it up, and she had previously in the evening mentioned that she thought perhaps COVID did come from a lab leak after all. “Aha!” I thought. “A crack! Maybe she’s open to hearing about my perspective as the parent of an ROGD autistic boy. Maybe she even already agrees with me!” I became cautiously excited. My adrenalin started to race. She asked me; what did I think about J. K. Rowling now, given her recent comments? I took a breath. I contemplated lying. I decided I was sick and tired of not speaking up. I said: “I agree with her.”

It was like all the air was sucked out of the room. I instantly knew she did not agree with J. K., or with me. I felt the portcullis crash down. It was like I could hear her thoughts - “Oh, she’s just not informed on the subject. I must educate her. Poor lost soul.” I wanted to say - oh honey. I know you think you are ahead of me. But you are not.

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I did not vote for Trump, but I was relieved when he won. I am so happy about the Executive Orders to stop the dangerous gender non-sense. But my Trump-euphoria is beginning to wane, because people like my friends, smart, compassionate people, think anything he says must be wrong because he said it. They cannot evaluate anything he does on its own merits. We’re in for a long four years.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

However in reference to your yard sign including" Stop the sterilization of gay kids": I would revise this to "Stop the sterilization of vulnerable young people" I believe my son is actually straight, as he had crushes on girls in high school. However, at 22, after sterilization by Planned Parenthood when he was newly 19, he says he is now "asexual." He would no doubt prefer a relationship with a lesbian female to validate his fantasy of being a "woman" (which would actually be a straight couple.) But with his disturbing appearance as an over six feet tall man in stereotyped "female" clothes, his likelihood of a normal female attracted to him are close to zero. Instead he is dating another confused man also ingesting sterilizing hormones and pretending to be a woman. So now my son claims to be a "lesbian." It's all beyond bizarre and cruel what's been inflicted on him (and myself and my family) by our sick society. Indeed, if I posted your sign on my yard, I would fear for my house and myself.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

Since my now 22 year old son plunged into the "trans" abyss at 19, I have been able to maintain sporadic contact despite the horrid sting of seeing him deterioate mentally and physically. However, I cannot will myself to call him by his stupid name or pronoun nor affirm his charade. To do so would betray the foundation of love for my son, which I cannot bear. Since my son is aware of my refusal to indulge his narcissistic delusion, I wonder if he may decide to refuse sparse in-person visits, or perhaps even ignore occasional benign texts and emails. I also try to pre-grieve estrangement, but this task seems impossible. How does one pre-grieve a precious child?? Unless he detransitions, this primal loss will ache for the rest of my life. There is no escape from being cheated from my son thriving and our sick society stealing his potential and health while shunning the validity of my pain and outrage. So I hope my confused brainwashed son will stay in touch with me, even in a minimal way. But if he doesn't someday, which could be this week (who knows?), I will have to trudge on, and I will, though with an even heavier heart than I am enduring now.

George Q Tyrebyter #homophobia #transphobia pittparents.com

My tolerance toward GLB is dropping by the day. GLB has pushed TQ into the forefront. Now they will reap the whirlwind, and I don't give a shit. My daughter is gay, my nephew is gay, an old friend's daughter is gay - I don't believe ANY of them are really gay, but rather have arrested development. I don't say that to anyone's face, however.

Distressed Parent #transphobia pittparents.com

If only I could have read this essay before my son was pushed off the sanity cliff by nefarious Planned Parenthood. That said, my husband and I tried with substantial effort to help our son escape from the poisonous gender cult tentacles when they first infected him as a teen. Likely curtailing more of his social media access may have helped. He was an excellent student often on his laptop working to achieve all A's, and we didn't suffienctly realize how utterly corrupting social media was/ is. I may always beat myself up about this regret. But in high school, my son went into remission from his "trans" obsession with the help his father and I did offer, and we thought we were out of these dark, treacherous woods. Unfortunately (a massive understatement as words to convey this horror are invaribly inadequate,) while he was sealed in his dorm room during his first semester at college in 2020 when the fear of COVID was peaking, the "trans" virus resurfaced to claim his mind, health and his potential, and simultaneously torpedoed the hearts of his parents, inflict loss on his clear-thinking sister, and destroy our once close family. As time in this psychological hell went on and on, I recognized the need to let go of short term hope as necessary to emerge from profound despair. But I need to allow long term hope that my son will somehow wake up. In reference to the title of today's lucid PITT essay, I also allow yearning for a "trans"-educated society to emerge and pummel the idiocy, indifference, virtue signaling, greed, and the cruelty of this evil cult back into the depths of hell where it burns to oblivion.

Average Dad #transphobia #racist #wingnut #fundie pittparents.com

That is correct, we must push back and stand for truth, if not western civilization is domed, history proves that 3 generations of this trans debauchery will be our undoing. We can't survive like this. Unfettered illegal immigration combined with unfettered sexual trans debauchery imposed on children will be our demise. Sexual freedom needs to reigned in some and our immigration laws should have always been enforced. But here we are. Those in power approve of the current state because they will be the ones left in power telling everyone what to do. They are the arsonists and the firefighters, they want to return to paganism and serfdom.

Runemasque #transphobia pittparents.com

In the days after my son announced he was a woman, he was ecstatic, thinking everyone was on board (I was listening and asking questions and ordering my mind). He was giddy explaining how excited he was to get thigh high boots finally and how they'd look. Now, how would he be tapped into that? I realized that the porn that I had some awareness of was facilitating a fantasy. I could not ethically nor honestly participate in what, to me, had become a fantastical ritual given very very grand and heavy meaning. I am not going to go to the trans church and say I believe in the god when I don't, and when I can see that, for my grown son, it has been attributed with the meaning of everything. Add sex to the meaning-making, and it is a very potent attachment. I don't see how I can participate in that.

Elizabeth #transphobia pittparents.com

I felt such gratitude and relief when President Trump issued this executive order. It came too late to help my own son or my family. Multiple doctors, teachers, psychiatrists, and even a few psychiatric institutions all failed to help my son. Those so called professionals were so captured by the gender lie, or too cowardly to fight against it, that they let the gender lie consume an autistic teen. It is despicable. It is my hope that this EO will save other children, and will stop the bullying of parents who know that their child cannot change sex.

Now congress must act to put the nail in the coffin of gender ideology and all its harms. If they don’t act, Trumps actions could be undone by a future president.

It is my hope that so many people will now feel free to speak against the lie of “gender affirming care” , that the floodgates will have burst, and there will be no going back.

Lisa J. Shultz #transphobia pittparents.com

[The author is describing their ideal outcomes for 2025]

Drag queen reading hour for children is banned. Children are protected from individuals who present themselves in libraries and educational settings as the opposite sex in dress or mannerisms that accentuate negative or regressive stereotypes or who have an agenda to normalize the presentation or behavior of pretending to be of the opposite sex.

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Apologies and reparations are made to any person who lost a job, position, license, or professional opportunity because another person presented themselves as the opposite gender or who endured threats or violence from an identity activist or political activist.