[on discourse on straight men refusing to date trans women for being assigned male at birth]
I thought a big thing for the LGBT movement was the right to be attracted to whomever you wish; but apparently that doesn't extend to straight dudes. Sometimes I'm really glad I'm not straight, actually.
Like if I started getting amorous with someone I thought was male only to find out they had a vagina, I'd probably tell them to get the hell out of my house, because those things are disgusting to me on a visceral level that I can't adequately explain. I don't care how masculinely you present yourself, that's not what sex ual attraction is about.
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So what IS sexual attraction about? Your partner having the right set of genitals? Fuck, what a superficial way to see such a thing. Even if personality and the like weren’t very important aspects of attraction, I would still first look at the guy’s body and face to judge whether I’m attracted to him, definitely not ask him to whip out his dick! I mean, I’m a bit iffy about trans-people not telling their dating partners about their status, but I also get why they do it: Because people like you and TERFs and certain straight people use this to immediately try to make it impossible for them to ever date again, and only because you believe that a certain set of organs is absolutely necessary for you to not be absolutely grossed out by them. Fuck what a limited worldview.
Another sad reminder that the LGBTQ+ community is sometimes not nearly as supportive for each other internally as I would like it to be.
I honestly don't get why some gay men are so repulsed by vagina. Same thing with straight men and lesbians repulsed by penis.
As a straight woman, I don't care for vagina but I'm not actively repulsed or disgusted by them (seriously vaginas aren't eldritch abominations).
Is genitalia all you really care about when it comes to a partner? If so that's pretty shallow.
Now, personally I wouldn't be upset if a guy didn't want to have sex with me because of my penis. After all, being satisfied sexualy is important in a relationahip. But, knowing that I plan to get rid of it, not even considering a relationship with me because I'm trans is kinda lame. If it's because I look too manly, okay whatever we all have our tastes in romantic partners I guess. But if I pass well enough that the only reason you know I'm trans is because I told you and you find me attractive and we get along and I have your prefered set of genitals but you dump me because I'm trans, that is pretty fucking bigoted, yeah.
I can understand not wanting sex with someone because you don't like the type of equipment they have now, or plan to have in the future.
But I don't get why it's a problem if they used to, but no longer have the equipment you dislike. It baffles me.
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