It’s “incels” that have no shame. Oh, and it’s NEITHER…NOR, dearie, not NEITHER…OR. Is English your second or third language, dearie?
Normies bring nice, kind, generous, open-minded, funny and interesting people home, and present them to their parents. Normie parents like normie girlfriends/boyfriends.
So, you’d rather look your parents in the eye and say “I’m too whiny, selfish, unhygienic and boring to find any real girlfriends. Meet Barbara*.”.
Normies see humans, not tropes.
“Incels” would apparently rather puke and/or “rope”, than have real sex.
When hubby and me found each other, a month after my 18th birthday, we were both young and normal-looking. Since then, 33 years later, we have BOTH grown a bit on the heavy side. In short; looks wither with age; you’d better find someone whose COMPANY you like. THAT will remain much longer than the looks.
* In Sweden, blow-up sex-dolls are called “Underbara uppblåsbara Barbara”
(Wonderful blow-up Barbara).