You made me think of something by bringing up the “a child needs a mother and a father” thing and what it implies that mothers dying in childbirth are no big deal. (And as a side note beyond their inability to understand there is such a thing as a pregnancy that will never be viable such as an ectopic pregnancy do they expect a healthy baby to just grow out of the corpse if they leave it to rot after it kills the mother in the first trimester or something?) Parents are replacable to these people and no surprise it’s women even more than men. It just gets worse as you follow the train of thought to its (logical?) conclusion.
Your wife dies in childbirth? You’ll get another one, she’ll have another child, and that will justify her place in your house. If you had surviving children tough luck for them especially if new mommy has no investment in children that aren’t “her own” as men like to cite for scorning single moms while at the same time telling them to get another man instead of working because having a job is apparently parental neglect. Unless you’re the dad, then that can be the extent of your emotional investment in your children’s lives outside of administering punishment and it won’t be neglect. Your kids aren’t up to your expectations? They aren’t as feminine or masculine as you expect? They won’t get back in the closet? They have a difference of opinion the belt won’t fix? The way you treat them left them with mental scars or they have autism or it’s impossible to tell where one ends and the other begins? They just not “how you raised them” to be and the approach of legal adulthood might limit how much power you can exert over them? Send them to camps, feed them fake “cures” counting death as a net gain, break them down into nothing, or just disown them. You will have more and they will turn out “right” no matter how much you have to alter them by force to do it.
Mom and dad are replacable, children are replacable, emotional bonds are intrinsically meaningless and replaceable, the self is replaceable and to be discarded at the behest of authority. A “family” is a formula to fit, every member in this sense is replacable. The only thing irreplacable is absolute authority and to create an unquestionable authority this empty shape of a family will be filled willingly or not and the “failures” taken to task. Emotional bonds outside of those that facilitate obedience mean nothing. The intentional violation of trust is almost virtuous to one who does so to maintain power but an unforgivable sin for the powerless because a clear moral stance is secondary to authority. To these minds even an act of incestuous rape does not bear consideration against the “moral” weight of ensuring the absolute nature of authority via the structure of family even if the bonds as anyone else know them are broken and betrayed and toxic and malicious. What matters is that they hold a vessel for authority in place.
This is the real “Great Replacement” in my opinion. You don’t have bonds with other people, goals you choose for yourself, an identity you define, rights as an individual… they’re replaced by an unforgiving absolute doctrine you conform to or else you are existing “wrong” and must be purged to make way for a more malleable soul to take their “rightful” place in the you-shaped hole left behind. You don’t have an identity, a culture, or a future you have a cardboard cutout with your name painted on it and a gun held to your head to make yourself resemble it at which point the gun is passed to you to hold it to the next head. Your free will is replaced by a factory standard or else you are replaced by someone who will meet it.