Can life with a woman ever be "comfy"? Tbh at this point if I magically got a girlfriend it would be very stressful.
Our lives as incels might not be great, but at least we have a lot of time to ourselves. After work, we're free to relax and do whatever we want.Personally, I love this comfort. Even though I've basically been rotting for more than a decade, it's still very nice to not have to do various things.
For example, even going shopping or getting a haircut is a huge inconvenience for me, it's an "event" that drains my energy. But if you had a girlfriend/wife? Every single day would be filled with several energy-draining events, and that's after a day of wage slaving to boot. Chores, taking her out so she doesn't get bored, various other obligations etc... If you have social anxiety and other mental disorders it all becomes even harder.
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If you see having a relationship with a woman as so bothersome and unfulfilling, why. the. hell. are. you. so. mad. that. you. don’t. have. one?
Also, have you ever considered going for a woman whose ideas of “relax and do whatever we want” matches yours?
I sadly cannot speak from my own experience :-(, but I am certain that True Love, a kindred spirit to share your life with, a companion and confidante with whom you face all challenges as one, someone with whom to grow old together, is more than worth it.
Says the pitiful loser who spends every waking moment pining for a girlfriend. Nice try though, trying to convince yourself-& everyone else that stumbles upon your little whinefests you call posts- that you don’t actually want what we all know you want more than anything in the world.
A loving partner makes an effort to make their other half happy, & a woman that adores her man will walk to the moon for him. I would.
@Spacewyrm #40841
Absolutely agree. Thinking of basic household chores or self-maintenance as an ‘event’ you have to mentally prepare for and hide out afterward to recover your energy from, is exactly how my depression manifests itself. It’s an insidious little voice in my ear going “hmm, showering today sounds like too much trouble. Wouldn’t it be easier to just sit here?” and then suddenly it’s been a week since I washed my hair.
This guy doesn’t need a girlfriend or the incel community, he needs a therapist and possibly some antidepressants.
And yet despite realizing nothing about having a girlfriend would actually appeal to you as basic interactions are draining and unwanted you’re hanging with a group that demands the right to use anything and everything to threaten, coerce, or condition the continued existence of women on being your “girlfriend” and demand the right to punish, visit violence, or even murder anyone you see as an obstacle in that goal. And are incapable of seeing how draining constantly dealing with THAT shit and the foul attitude set to a hair trigger that breeds is must be or why it should matter in any way to the “femoids” who would really rather not put up with any of it.
You dance ever so close to the edge of realizing you fundamentally misunderstand human interaction and at best clumsily mimic a tragically warped set of perceived norms and milestones with no idea of the hows and even less of the why but always make that the fault of everyone else.
Meh. Not fundie, just depressed, introverted, and stumbled into a toxic community. I've had similar thoughts on my worse days.
I’d say my husband’s life is fairly comfy. When we are not working, he gets breakfast in bed, or on the patio sofa, wherever he is when the breakfast is ready. When he comes home from work, he cranks up the sauna and has a beer or two in between sauna sessions. When he’s ready and has showered, he plays some computer game until dinner is ready, and then we chill on the sofa in the living room or on the patio until it’s time to go to bed.
If you had a wife or girlfriend, she could do the shopping for you, and she could even cut your hair, if you don’t have a complicated hairdo.
What chores and “various other obligations” would magically appear just because you’re two in the household? When you are two, you can share the work between you.
I don’t expect my husband to keep me entertained. If I’m bored, that’s my responsibility. I don’t bore easily; my favorite past-time is to sit under a tree in the garden, listening to the birds and insects, and smelling all the lovely fragrances.
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