There is a very good reason the Founding Fathers did not permit women, or men without property, to vote. They knew that they had an insufficient ability to think outside themselves and their own immediate benefit.
Most female thinking is fundamentally magical. They assume that everything simply exists as it is, and that their actions can't possibly affect anything to any material extent. This is why a matriarchal society will eventually find itself dwelling in mud huts and dirt.
The male equivalent of the average female mindset is the man who only lives to get drunk and laid. Why should he build? Why should he protect? Why should he obey the laws, rules, and social mores? Why should he not simply do whatever feels right at the moment?
As you say, women can't even produce a persuasive pro-civilizational argument for women. How would you expect men to do so, or expect them to bother? The violent repression model is easier and it works particularly well with women.