Explaining why "Stop focusing on relationships, focus on yourself!" is a blatant contradiction to self-improvment (IT CHERRYPICKERS AND LURKERS GTFIH)[
A normie platitude I hear that doesn't really make sense is "Stop focusing on relationships, focus on yourself!". Without any consideration into the emotional rewards relationships give, I shall explain why this is contradictory to the good cause of "self-improvement"
Before we start, we must agree on these axioms:
Axiom A: Self-Improvement in the area of personality must be done selflessly. There is no reward to oneself because of it, only a reward to others (interactions are made far easier, and they don't have to be menaced by a rude misogynist/non-cuck/non-fag/non-tranny/whatever). While stuff like weight loss (health benefits) or meditation (transcendence of this material world) has some benefit to it, you receive no reward for improving your personality.
Axiom B: No form of self-improvement should be detrimental to your health. Violate this and you have no life (or at least mental health) to see that shinning personality of yours improve.
These axioms will be instrumental in the point I will make in this essay.
Now, you might ask, how does one improve a personality? Perhaps these ideas have come to mind:
• Donating to charity
• • Adopting a pet to care for animals
• Volunteering at charity services
• Ejecting from the mind incorrect beliefs (such as Incelistani ideology, although I'd argue more would be done by leaving cuckqueers instead, but I'm trying to make this understandable for cuckqueers)
• Socializing with others
• Etc.
While these ideas are great and all of them DO work, we must also consider the scale of their effects. Donating to charities does help, but it doesn't help as much as actually volunteering at a charity service per say.
In that way, acquiring a relationship may be one of the most effective ways to 'personalitymaxx' if you will, or more appropriately, become a 'personality Chad'.
How so?
A relationship actually has you caring for someone at all times, in a good relationship you will not forget your SO. This provides you with the skills to better care for people and forces the selfishness out of you ; there is no 'I' in 'love'.
It also matures you as a person and teaches you valuable skills on how to properly interact with others.
How so?
Rather than simply talking to friends for a short time, a therapist who views the interactions as a business (which may toss YOU off, thinking that money has a more important role in interactions), a roommate who may move out when they wish, Family, which you should already do, or your pets which cannot understand your human 'language', a SO is far more different. You have them present at all times, and unlike Family, where you are related by blood, for an SO, you are attempting to create deep connections despite often times not many things in common. Such forces you to think outside the box on how not only to survive with them, but to thrive with them.
In a world where life expectancy is still a real thing and the ability to tire also exists, humans, not only in the field of personality-improvement, but in almost every field imaginable (Including typing these damn things, sorry I was gone for so long :() have to act as efficiently as possible. An example would be, training at the gym. Why, if of average lifting capability, lift what barley takes any effort, when you can lift what's harder to lift, thus creating more of the desired result. In our case, no matter how much time is expended improving one's own personality, one will always have time left over. In this case, acquiring a SO would be beneficial, as you have to go the aforementioned difficulties at all times, yes, including your spare time. It's the most efficient, considering that no one, can spend all their free time doing the other ones without violating Axiom B. An SO is the most feasible option for the Efficiency-Axiom paradigm. While not spending too much energy, great improvements to the personality can be made.
This is not to mention the emotional rewards you are giving to your SO by taking care of them properly.
But wait!
You may ask: Why not just adopt a kid? That kid is also human, and the time you are with it is also the same, no? The answer is simple: Two parents do a FAR better job than one. Without that SO, you aren't raising that kid as well you could have. Due to the fact that you are now experimenting with the life of a child, If you are incapable of doing it. Don't do it, lest that kid be stuck with question of how to improve it's own personality one day, as it now has dents in it's personality left by you, and leaving dents in someone's personality is detrimental to the improvement of you own.
THERE WE GO! GET THIS ONTO IT BOYOS!