Vashti is a well-known woman of pride. She was too big to obey her husband. As the scripture predicts, she fell from her high position of being the First Lady. Vashti was never heard of again. Is that what you want to happen to you? Not obeying a husband is a sign that you are like Vashti and therefore it is a sign that you are proud.
I sent a missionary to a foreign country. When he married his wife, she was a nice, sweet, obedient little girl. Through the blessings of God, she gave birth to a number of children.
Finally, when her womb was full she declared, “I will not go to the mission field any more. I have had enough. I am fed up. It is over.”
She told her husband, “I am not coming.”

This young lady had now grown wings and had become too big and too resistant to obey her husband.

This is a good example of pride. This young lady would not have behaved like this some years earlier.

On the seventh day, when the heart of the king was merry with wine, he commanded the seven chamberlains that served in the presence of Ahasuerus the king, To bring Vashti the queen before the king with the crown royal, to shew the people and the princes her beauty: for she was fair to look on. BUT THE QUEEN VASHTI REFUSED TO COME AT THE KING’S COMMANDMENT by his chamberlains:

Vashti was hard, stubborn and unyielding. Perhaps, when the king first chose her to be his queen she came running, willing to do anything and everything. But today, she could not be moved! Watch out for those hardened resistant women with the spirit of Vashti.

A woman who never bends, never yields, is never gracious, never flows and never agrees, is just another proud Vashti.
How is it that you can never change your mind? What is the use of a mind if it cannot be changed? Indeed, you may say, “Who am I? I am a humble servant of God. But your stubbornness and resistance to change reveals that you are actually proud and puffed up. You proclaim your goodness and call yourself a daughter of destiny. But you are just like Vashti who could not be moved around by her husband.