“What defines a woman” is stupid

I’m honestly just so tired of having to repeatedly chew over this stupid statement because no one can ever answer it and whatever you say TRA can twist to use for their own narrative and it ends up with us just being dehumanised and reduced to our wombs.

The issue is that everything a man knows or thinks he understands about a woman’s experience has come from a lifetime of being socialised to believe he has some kind of right over her, even to the point he can mock and dehumanise her further by performatively wearing her clothes and accessing her spaces. His humiliation fetish off the charts because what could be more humiliating than being a woman.

Women themselves can’t even define it because how do you explain something that just is? Anytime we’ve ever attempted to discuss anything that affects us it is mocked or fetishised, even down to things we can’t control like our periods, childbirth and breastfeeding.

Anytime I hear trans “women” discuss femininity it is always from the perspective of a man’s ideal sexualisation of women. It’s hair and makeup, spinny skirts and high heels. They pick up talking points like cat calling with no true understanding of how it feels because they’re never really in danger. How are they able to access (on at least some insurance providers) laser hair removal? How can they possibly feel more Dysphoric than say a woman with PCOS who has to shave her face everyday?

Womanhood isn’t something I get to switch off, it’s mine because it’s my birthright. I am a woman always and the world never mistakes me for anything else. Womanhood isn’t dresses and makeup and giggly sleepovers with your friends. It is raw, wild and untamed, it’s ruthless and unapologetic, it is both fierce and afraid at the same time.

And even in all of that, in all the rawness womanhood boils down to, there will still be a man who would read that and masturbate to it.

Apologies for the rant and my dyslexic mistakes