“Women who choose not to take their husband's surname after marriage are not sexually attracted to them,”
What does sex have to do with taking the name?
My wife took my name because she was one of five people at her command named “Johnson” and my name’s distinctive. My daughter in law did not take my son’s name, because it’s a wee bit TOO distinctive. That’s between them. Of course, so was my granddaughter.
"and will likely be the one to initiate divorce.”
Depends on how snotty he, or his mother, gets about her being a feminist.
“When a woman feels metaphysically submissive to a man,”
My wife took my name, but even under significant amounts of sedative she’s in no way submissive to me.
“when she admires all the masculine qualities he exhibits and deems him worthy of submitting to,”
You know what’s a ’man’s job’ in my house? I cook twice as many meals as she does. I do the laundry. When we both wore uniforms i did the ironing because the crackerjack uniform creases make NO sense at all. When i deployed at sea regularly, she ran the finances. When i came back to shore for the last time, i took over bill paying. Your image strikes me as toxic femininity, though i really suspect you’re drawing the lines based on toxic masculinity, but through the mirror.
“sexually speaking, she will gladly become "his" and take his name. This is the essence of femininity.”
Near as i can tell the essence of femininity is being a worthwhile person. This floormat you describe isn’t even a good fantasy.