“…. a time when many children are being taught that, if their parents disagree with them, their parents are “toxic.””
No, snowflake. it’s not that you disagree, it’s that you completely reject your children’s condition, the science behind it, and you’re at least a little bit of a bigot. That’s toxic.
“That if parents try to guide them, they are “controlling.””
that’s not what it looks like from outside your head.
“That if parents set limits, they are being “oppressive.””
Toxic males do the same thing. they frame sexual harassments as ‘a compliment.’
You’re trying to present your abuse as something a lot less creepy than it is.
“But almost nobody talks about the other side.
Nobody talks about the sleepless nights.”
mostly because it appears to be self-inflicted.
“The silent sacrifices.”
You sacrifice nothing. you MIGHT hold your tongue, for a while, but you’ll never actually give up your position, will you?
“The weight a father and a mother carry when they are trying to prepare a child for a world they know will show no mercy.”
Yes, yes, ‘tough love,’
I have this weird idea that my kids are ALWAYS safe with me. They can ALWAYS seek shelter with me. I will take them AS THEY ARE, not how i want them to be. It’s him against the world, but I’m not the world.
“The world is not a classroom where everyone validates your feelings.”
But you should, shouldn’t you?
“The world demands. The world tests. The world does not protect.”
yes. 40 years ago i proposed to the perfect woman, knowing thatmany people would be upset by it. I was willing to tell the entire world to fuck off for her sake.
now, if my kids turn out to be trans, i’m still willing to tell the world to fuck off, it’s my kid.
“And that is exactly why parents try to prepare their children.
NO YOU DO NOT! Let OTHER people be the assholes!
You do not HAVE to be an asshole to your kid!
It’s kinda your job NOT to be!
“There is a huge difference between abuse and guidance.”
Yes. You call it guidance. It’s not welcome, not appreciated, not appropriate. Which makes it abuse after the first time and they say ‘no.’
“Parents are not trying to destroy their child.”
Yes, you are. You’re trying to destroy the ACtUAL child, to regain the ideal you thought you were cloning.
“They are trying to protect something the child may not yet fully understand: their own future.”
They don’t want YOUR future, though.
“The greatest irony of all this is that the same society that teaches young people to distrust their parents is the same society that will not be there when they fall.”
Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaybe they won’t fall, though.
“But parents… they remain.”
you’d think so. But you’re distancing yourself from your actual child.
“Because the true love of a father and a mother does not operate on approval. It operates on commitment.”
No you operate on approval. You don’t approve of your kid having these feelings, so you reject them.
“Maybe the question that needs to be asked is not: “Why don’t my parents agree with me?””
That’s not the question they’re asking.
You’ve made it clear that it’s more than disagreeing.