“Can life with a woman ever be "comfy"?”
Depends on if you mean an incel coerced sex slave or a reality woman?
“Tbh at this point if I magically got a girlfriend it would be very stressful.”
Wait’ll you get her pregnant.
“Our lives as incels might not be great, but at least we have a lot of time to ourselves.”
I have as much time to myself as I want. I mean, why WOULD i marry someone if i didn’t want to hang out with them?
“ After work, we're free to relax and do whatever we want.”
Okay, see, I want to touch as much of my wife as she’s prepared to tolerate. SOMETIMES she even invites me to come over and touch her. I can say without fear of contradiction that this is something I want.
“Personally, I love this comfort. Even though I've basically been rotting for more than a decade, it's still very nice to not have to do various things.”
What do you think couples HAVE to do?
“For example, even going shopping or getting a haircut is a huge inconvenience for me, it's an "event" that drains my energy.”
Yeah, I didn’t do a lot of ‘shopping’ the first time I lived off base after enlisting. I do all the shopping now, and it’s energizing. I see something on a shelf and think, “Oh! She’s gonna like that!”
"But if you had a girlfriend/wife? Every single day would be filled with several energy-draining events, and that's after a day of wage slaving to boot.”
You CAN express your feelings. Say, “I’m too tired.” or “I don’t want to right now” or “back off witch-woman! The cinemax is far to inconvenient for my tastes!”
"Chores,”
Dude, chores persist with or without a partner.
“taking her out so she doesn't get bored,”
SOmetimes we just calculate the amount of leftovers in the fridge and call it a night for feral marauding for flesh (or pasta, sometimes).
"various other obligations etc...”
The best definition i’ve ever heard for ‘love’ is ‘wanting the best for other people.’ If you can love someone and be loved, it’s not an obligation. She’ll adjust to your needs, and you’ll adjust to hers.
“ If you have social anxiety and other mental disorders it all becomes even harder.”
But think of having someone else to answer the door…