“In addition, gender confusion is ubiquitous on the internet, children’s TV programs and story time at the local library.”
All the drag performers i’ve seen, there’s no real confusion going on. Even if the performer is convincing as a woman, if they’re in a DRAG SHOW, it’s not an attempt at ‘passing.’
“How do we undo these ideas once implanted in my grandkid’s minds?”
Just keep lying, the way you were.
“How can I handle this psychologically? I now have even more eggshells to walk on.”
AND THERE you are. Always comes down to ME ME ME, huh?
“Listening to my other kids refer to their younger brother with his new legal, female name is quite distressing.”
Cool. But it’s sister, Her legal name.
“Having his older sister and brother-in-law (both of whom he admires) affirm his delusion is already heartbreaking for me.”
You’re right. She needs treatment.
But do you now the MOST SUCCESSFUL treatment for people with gender disphoria? Transitioning.
“But their son doing the same is even worse.”
For you…. How horrid.
“Moving this mass hysteria into the next generation of my family feels almost unbearable.”
Btter kill yourself. Tie a long rope around your neck and start fluushing it.
“This is another big step in erasing my son.”
It’s more like they took a picture of your son and put a filter on it. Not erasing.
“ Certainly, it is a big step toward rewriting my family history.”
This is like the people that say when their kid marries interracially, the family line comes to an end.
“I have struggled through these awful years to hang onto my son’s existence in my own mind.”
Then you’re a complete twatwaffle.
“Despite his appearance, name change, and affirmation from those around him I have been able to hold onto a sliver of the boy I raised.”
So you feel more for the idea of the kid, not her actual life.
“I am so scared that the sliver will slip away and the hole in my life, in the shape of my son will widen.”
Or you could somehow embrace your daughter.
“I should be able to enjoy my precious grandchildren without sadness and resentment.”
Nope. Your rights end at the point you harm another. You don’t get to have MORE control over their individuality than they do.
"If they are forced by their parents to refer to my son with his trans identity then I’m in a situation where being with them becomes painful. How sad is that?”
Die in pain.