Tom3858 #ableism #psycho reddit.com

I do not sympathize with depressed people, people who kill themselves, or dead people.
Let me give examples of each:

DEPRESSED PEOPLE:

someone depressed seeks comfort from me but wont accept my advice. They chalk this up to their depressions

Someone makes repeated bad decisions that effect other people. They chalk this up to depression.

Someone makes bad decisions that affect them, and blame everything else. They chalk this up to depression.

Im not doubting your depression may impair your ability to think clearly and act raitionally. But I dont care. Why should that be my problem, why should I tolerate you, and why wont you seek help instead of looking for someone to comfort you?

PEOPLE WHO KILL THEMSELVES:

Someone comes to me and tells me they are going to kill themselves. Ok you can do that.

Again, I don't believe it is my obligation to convince them not to, or even call the police or whatever it is your supposed to do. Morally and ethically I dont think im educated enough to decide whether or not a persons decision to kill themselves is "right" or "wrong" either, so im just not going to bother with that.

DEAD PEOPLE:

Someone kills themselves. Someone (or even me) brings up a dead person as an example of a person who couldnt handle life or as an example or conversation topic for any number of other things. Everyone around gets incredibly offended by this.

Im convinced most people who pretend to care about a dead person only because it the socially acceptable thing to do. "Don't talk bad about a dead man," they say, but its ok to talk bad about a person who is alive? I dont follow the logic. If I knew the person better than you did, and i knew the person was a crappy person, am I just supposed to lie and pretend they were great and I secretly always looked up to them?

"Well you could just not talk about them" I disagree with this logic. Im not willing to censor my thoughts to please a person who may very well be faking their sympathy for a dead person. Furthermore my beliefs on what is ok, and not ok to talk about, lean in the direction of the idea that you should be able to talk about anything. Much like dark humor, people try to put a label on the things they deem innapropriate, that states you cannot talk about them. Is it ok to joke about nazi germany? In my opinion yes. Simply cause the criteria for what is not acceptable as a joke, does not exist. And if it did, it would be just as opinionated if not much more, as my belief that it is ok. And so I apply the same logic to dead people in conversation.

I will admit im a selfish person. Ill admit that generally being around a depressed person makes me uncomfortable. And I will also note that in my family, when I was young, if one of my sibling were to day they were depressed, my parents would tell them it's in their head, and to get over themselves. Of course I dont believe that final statement, but my attitude towards depressed people has probably been influenced by this.

That's my unpopular opinion

Edit* Instead of keeping to your righteous ideals and exemplifying my final point, you could try to provide valid arguments to help me understand your perspective. (Im not so stuck in my ways as other people)

Or just call me a chad. You know it is the internet after all

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