It's a myth that men were ever in charge in traditional relationships. Even back into like the 1800s and 1700s where we have contemporary writings contradicting this.
Earnest Belfort Bax wrote in the 1800s that women were basically in charge in domestic spheres.
He even talked about a media bias in the newspapers against men in family matters.
Another publication in the 1800s talked about how women were violent with their husbands, and how men couldn't do anything about it because there weren't any laws protecting husbands from domestic violence.
And then we get to today where women control 80% of marriages, and most decisions about where the couple lives, who they hang out with, what cars they drive, what food that eat, and even what clothes they wear.
Has it ever been a thing? It feels like it only happens in women's mock-medieval fantasy novels. Their porn literature. The fantasy of the guy in charge like 50 shades of Grey, is a fantasy precisely because it doesn't happen in reality.
How can the man be? Through the power of the very unfair courts, every wife is effectively holding a gun to the head of every husband. The laws build in an extreme power imbalance into every marriage. This is why no man should ever get married. It's a slavery contract. She can do anything she wants without consequence. The man suffered all the consequences.
Dude men in the US are trained puppies. I see it everywhere and in my family as well. And what choice is there? Society has completely gone berserk on man shaming.
I'd like you to tell me about any marriage (traditional or otherwise) where the man is 'in charge'...
I'll wait. 😉
Feminism: Equality, when convenient.