Is it really not all men though?

Because when we say ACAB, we mean all. Because they're complicit in a system that perpetuates violence.

I don't know a single man who has reliably, every time, called out other men for their vile behaviour.

In fact they usually make friends with them, and if the women in their lives point it out they'll "oh, yeah, he's a bad dude" and then go have beers because what the BAD DUDE thinks of them is more important than the comfort and safety of the women in their lives.

They call themselves protectors but I don't see them calling each other out for creepy behaviour, online or off.

They're complicit.

All of them.

They're complicit in a system that perpetuates violence against women.

Not only that, but they continue to both benefit from it AND be harmed by it, but still unwilling to change it because even though it hurts them, it hurts us more. They get more from this than they lose.

Yeah. All men. Every single one.

You are completely ignoring the fact that at the basis of the patriarchy not just the oppression of women by men but also the oppression of disadvantaged men by advantaged ones.

I myself, before starting to identify as non-binary, suffered the worst consequences of this firsthand as an Autistic AMAB. Under patriarchy, the physical abuse of men by other men is way more openly normalized than physical abuse of women by men

I am an intersectional feminist. When I say "all men" I should correct myself and say "all cis men".

But "all cis men" is 98% of men.

While it's also "all cis men" who are complicit in the parts of patriarchy that also harm men...

... I'm really tired of it only mattering to men to fix it when it hurts them.

Why do we have to convince them that THEY are being harmed before they'll change something?

Why is the harm they're causing us (everyone but cis men) not enough?