“The ultimatum that you propose seems pretty gentle to me. If I were in your shoes, alternative (b) would be a divorce. (Or is that what you meant by "move a bed roll elsewhere"?)”
Yeah, whenever my wife pisses me off I go straight to ultimatums. Nothing like a discussion or maybe counseling, just ride or die.
“As I said in another post, sex is the center of a marriage.”
Really? You’d think that either she’d say ‘no’ less often, then, OR I’d get upset when she did?
“In fact, it is the reason for marriage.”
Meh. We were living together when I proposed. I already had the sex. I wanted her eternal soul.
“It is the only thing you do with your spouse that you can't (mustn't) do with anyone else.”
Not true. I’ve known a few ‘open’ marriages.
“A spouse who refuses to have any sex at all has strayed from his marriage vows”
I recall ‘love, honor, and cherish’ and ‘forsake all others,’but I don’t recall anything about sex on demand. Not even at Catholic Wedding School.
“just as much as one who is an adulterer.”
No, see that’s a violation of ‘forsake all others.’
“He is just as unfaithful, although "faithless" might be a better word.”
Nonsense. Fucking her coworker is being unfaithful. NOT fucking her isn’t a violation of any oath made to her or to any gods.
“If marriage is a picture of Christ and the Church,”
Christ and the congregation argue about whose turn it is to pick the restaurant?
“then an adulterous spouse is like a Christian who becomes a Muslim. That's bad.”
What a weird analogy. Hard to become a muslim without UNbecoming a Christain. But if i sleep around, I’m still married to her in the eyes of God and the Law.
“A sexless spouse is like one who becomes an atheist.”
Well, without sex, I’m less likely to shout out to God, that’s true.
“That's just as bad.”
I think you’re either a virgin or someone who is desperately afraid their spouse is looking around…
"Either way, they have strayed from the faith/marriage."
Been to a LOT of Sunday School and they never, ever, said that having sex was critical to getting into Heaven… Might have stayed if they did.