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Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #crackpot #conspiracy #transphobia pittparents.com

When I spoke with parents at our ROGD meeting, I asked a simple question. Every single one of them answered the same way: yes, their child was addicted to video games.

At what point do we stop calling this coincidence?

There are countless videos online of gamers openly discussing taking estrogen, claiming it makes them feel calmer, more sensitive, or more “in tune” while playing. Whether people are comfortable acknowledging this or not, this content exists, and it reaches vulnerable minds.

Sometimes I think about the movie Poltergeist, where the little girl sits in front of the television, mesmerized by the static, until she is eventually pulled inside. Not because screens are evil in themselves, but because prolonged exposure without guidance can shape perception, identity, and belief in powerful ways.

I want to be careful here. I am not interested in promoting conspiracy theories. But there is a difference between inventing conspiracies and asking reasonable questions when patterns repeat themselves with such consistency.

Truth Mum #conspiracy #transphobia #sexist pittparents.com

I also make no apologies or have any doubt that this was a master plan by the powers that should not be to indoctrinate our children, demasculate men/masculate women...remember a nation of weak men is easy to control, destroying the feminine has always been part of the plan. The Plandemic was introduced for this very purpose, and many others unfortunately.

To isolate people and get them glued to their screens, depressed, anxious and therefore unable to use discernment when being bombarded by these messages. Heck I was a "tomboy" growing up, two older brothers, loved sports, loved match box cars and all things boy. I wonder if I had been born later and was exposed to all of this if I would've made a similar choice! This was a whole scale attack perpetuated on humanity. Covid is a scam. Pandemic, scamdemic, however you wish to see it, it is part of the plan. Do yourself a favor and open your eyes to the lies and atrocities these bastards have perpetrated on humanity. You know what I did during "covidious?" Went down every rabbit hole under the sun and woke up, thank God!

PITTParents #ableist #conspiracy #crackpot #transphobia pittparents.com

I can speak personally about my own son.

He was highly intelligent, a straight-A student, introverted, sensitive, and had never had a girlfriend. That description alone mirrors what so many parents here describe. His entry point was fighting video games. From there, he joined the Fighting Game Community. As many of you already know, these spaces are overwhelmingly LGBTQ-dominated.

… At what point do we stop calling this coincidence?

There are countless videos online of gamers openly discussing taking estrogen, claiming it makes them feel calmer, more sensitive, or more “in tune” while playing. Whether people are comfortable acknowledging this or not, this content exists, and it reaches vulnerable minds.

… I want to be careful here. I am not interested in promoting conspiracy theories. But there is a difference between inventing conspiracies and asking reasonable questions when patterns repeat themselves with such consistency.

When so many young people use the same language, follow the same sequence of steps, anticipate the same objections, and deliver the same answers almost word for word, it is fair to ask: where did this script come from?

Who prepared them for this moment?

Who taught them what to say, when to say it, and how to frame their parents as adversaries if they resist?

Who guided them to see affirmation as love and caution as harm?

1968Chick #transphobia pittparents.com

Are you still paying for your son's college? Health benefits? Cell phone? Why?

Cut them off. Period. Once they get into this cult - they shouldn't be supported. Continuing to feed their insanity is part of the problem. Sure, it hurts - but tough love is a thing that needs to come back. If the cult member can't support themselves, there's a big chance they'll snap out of it. All these parents supplying daily life needs are just feeding the cult addiction.

PITT Parents #transphobia pittparents.com

How do you tell your child that your life is more relaxed when he is out of the house?

My adult son, captured almost eight years ago by trans ideology, still lives at home. He already had mental health issues and this cult has affected his ability to work. He can’t seem to move out. Right or wrong, I do not yet have the strength to force him out (but that’s a topic for another piece).

So, when he goes off on a week-long staycation with the romantic interest he’s hooked up with, another young man captured by the cult, who lives overseas, my house breathes.

I am less stressed not seeing him with his long, unruly hair, the septum piercing, the clothing that leans toward feminine and his effected mannerisms. The relief from not having it in my face every day is palpable.

Also, when my trans-identified son leaves the house, this younger brother, who still lives at home as well, is freed from self-imposed exile in his room or the basement. He’s free to interact with his parents without his brother coming into his view.

My younger son refuses to be in the same room with his “trans” brother. He is so angry and turned off by the effects of hormones and social “transitioning.” He will peek into the family room to see if it’s “safe,” and only then come in to enjoy watching something together.

So, when the text came to my phone informing me my son would be home tonight, when I had mistakenly thought I had another two days of relative peace, my heart sank.

The guilt and self-loathing at that emotion loom large in my heart. This is my child, the one who made me a mother, and yet I am dismayed that he is coming home from what was a quiet week of exhalation.

How do I impart to my child that his very presence causes a tension in the house that we all dread?

I suppose I am one of the “lucky” ones whose child has not decided to estrange himself from his non-affirming family.

But I don’t feel lucky.

I feel on edge, waiting for the door to open and my family to fracture once again.

How do I live with that burden?

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Jim Jones committed suicide along with the mass murder/suicide of his followers in 1978. It was a horrific loss of American lives. Talk of suicide is an integral part of gender ideology: How many parents have heard the “dead daughter or live son” threat, implying their child is at risk of suicide if she doesn’t immediately “transition”? Jim Jones directed his followers to commit suicide. In gender ideology, once the word “trans” is mentioned, a child or young adult is essentially threatened with suicide by trans supporters (in this case, doctors and psychologists) of this cult. Gender ideology is the suicide cult: Once someone shows interest, he is threatened with suicide if he doesn’t join.

PITT Parents #transphobia pittparents.com

If you only knew…

…what it is like being told by your adult child that he believes the horrible is possible. That he was born in the wrong body and is going through treatments and procedures to right what he sees as wrong and fixable.

If you only knew…

…how it feels to listen to your child read a prepared script outlining the new rules for being his mother, telling you not to use the name you so lovingly picked out for him to honor loved ones who have died and are now established guardians over their namesakes. Telling you that this name, which rolled off your tongue like a song, is now a “deadname” and you must use another one, which sticks in your throat and cuts like barbed wire.

If you only knew…

…how it feels to watch your son take drugs that are harming him in the long term even as they falsely uplift him in the short term, how he has already altered his body and mind, in a charade of repairing what is not broken; how it feels to know each poison pill he dissolves under his tongue could be rewriting his destiny and shortening his lifespan, and you know it because there is scientific evidence - the same science that determines him as male - but that he shuns as summarily as he rejects his biology.

If you only knew…

…how to learn to hide the daily silent tears with a forced smile, to silence the growing screams, to pray that your broken heart will not someday just explode from the anguish, to watch your child self-destruct into a delusion that society has shaped him to believe, and how society has embraced him even as I, his mother, am thrust into a void, a macabre version of “The Emperor’s New Clothes,” while friends, family, and casual acquaintances celebrate and glorify this new twisted iteration of the miracle that was my son.

If you only knew…

…how it feels to dread weddings and family celebrations and events and even funerals, because you have somehow developed a sense of shame; you feel the judgment of those who will whisper and gossip and pity and blame you for the unwitting indoctrination of your son, the left-field new reality that has been foisted on you, and though you pray every day that it will change, you still feel that this is somehow your fault, and you are found lacking in the eyes of those who are looking in.


PITT Parents #transphobia pittparents.com

It creeps into morning consciousness, still fresh and naive, and sucks the life out of it. Pastel colours of a once calm mind turn grey and staticky. A new day, that was supposed to mean new opportunities and mundane magic, is now a pointless stack of minutes and hours, like old gum pulled thin and long.

It collects mothers’ tears, gulps vitality, and steals fathers’ sleep and dignity. It turns them into some unfathomable currency called euphoria. A child in pain trades her wholeness for it.

It doesn’t kill hope immediately; it plays with it for a while, suffocates it almost to the point of death, leaves it breathless, then resuscitates it for a few moments, lets it linger, and the cycle goes on and on. Eventually, something dies out. Myocarditis of the soul?

Its name is Trans.

PITT Parents #transphobia pittparents.com

I have never felt envy or jealousy to a great extent in my life.

And I know the words are not synonymous, but I am jealous.

I see friends and family whose kids aren’t afflicted with the mental delusion that somehow they were born in the wrong body. And that makes me jealous. Because my son is so afflicted.

I see people I know, people I do not know, whose kids aren’t taking drugs harmful to their longterm health. Whose kids don’t take wrong-sex hormones to develop a body appearance they never should experience.

And I’m jealous. Because my son takes multiple drugs daily to maintain a body he thinks is healthy, but is not. He has become a lifelong addict.

I see people I know whose biggest worries with their adult kids pertain to everyday issues: work, personal life, health, and happiness all on a scale I see as “normal.”

And I’m jealous. Because my son is on a path which has affected his work situation, his personal life, his health, and his happiness, and it is only going to get worse. His plans to mutilate his body are immutable.

Sure, everyone has problems. Everyone’s kids have problems.

But I would give anything, most literally anything to not have the worries and problems and envy that I have.

This isn’t a pity party.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

As soon as I stepped into the church my heart was stabbed again. There, standing by his parents, was my son’s former best friend who was home visiting from college. He is a nerdy kid, like my own son, who is maturing into a handsome and delightful adult. Then his other former best friend, tall and handsome came in. His parents, our dear best friends of years, were sitting next to me. My mind flashed back when the three musketeers would sit together in church and then come to our home to play video games with other boys from church.

My heart broke into a million pieces and the sadness overtook me. Today, the music bounced off the walls and didn’t comfort me. As the music played and tears rolled down my eyes, my heart screamed to God “Why my son? Why our family? Why does he have to be the messed up one who wants to eradicate his identity and who is killing any chance to be a functional man one day? Why do my best friends have their SONS and I don’t have mine? Why? Why? Why?”

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I’d seen the Cass Review.

Then I’d seen one systematic peer reviewed study after another.

The dominos of a protocol fell before our eyes.

And the building blocks of a Standards of Care began to topple as the sand beneath its foundation shifted with the changing tide.

Months went by.

I learned more about a toxic Theory: Delusion making waves in an attempt to subvert reality, cloaking itself in a credibility it could never earn, inverting truth with lies, and performing “liberator” while psychologically enslaving both its acolytes and its unwitting victims.

Meanwhile, the therapist lulled a vulnerable client within an ideological framework that reifies and deifies stereotypes, celebrates the regressive as progressive, and sacrifices lives and bodies on its alter.

One day, she invited me to a meeting.

Ostensible curiosity about my perspective.

She tried to convert, but it didn’t work. I’m inoculated against the virus.

Ostensible curiosity about a thought experiment.

“What’s wrong with someone wanting to grow a beard?”

A low growl forms in a mother’s throat.

I proffered up a list of possible harms.

[…]

“So what? Who cares?”

I do.

Two females begin to face-off.

In rising anxiety, I said I valued staying grounded in objective reality.

She said my values didn’t count in this - that the responsibility to honor someone’s values only went in one direction. Her solution was an ultimatum that facilitates fantasy…or else.

A mother exposes her teeth. A rival’s eyes widen.

Her arguments fell flat, so she said she refused to debate. Then she fell back on the last resort of the scoundrel: ad hominem.

With a rising voice, I continued to point to the harms. With a trained, taunting, calm, she continued to point at my person, insinuating the go-to slur without stating it explicitly.

A mother roars. A rival retreats.

And the mother stands here shaking, trying to recover… knowing that the Predator still lurks, and that the prey is her daughter.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

[Excerpt from a satirical piece depicting "the year 2035, after the gender clinics have been closed"]

The number of self-declared wizards has surged in recent years. Years ago, there were only a handful of wizards - mostly middle-aged men who discovered late in life that they were not “mundanes” (the wizard name for non-wizards), they were wizards! Now kids as young as four years old are surprising their parents with the statement, “Mom, Dad - I’m a wizard!” New subreddit groups are starting every day!

How do these kids know they are wizards? It’s an inner feeling of self, and if a child feels it, the only treatment is to start “wizard affirmation care” or “WAC”, prescribed by wizard doctors. Wizard clinics are opening everywhere! The care starts with a daily cocktail of legal drugs that are used in an off-label way: It’s typically a special mix of LSD, anabolic steroids, thalidomide, and fentanyl, all used to enhance wizard capabilities. Surgical modifications include lopping off body parts and reshaping them into humps, tails, fangs, beards, wings, and just about anything a wizard can think of. Most wizard doctors are former gender doctors, so they are ready and eager to experiment on healthy bodies, never mind the harm. Wizards are very secretive about their magic, and will not demonstrate it to non-believers, but find their magic is very helpful in sports.

Some skeptics are concerned that this new “wizard industry” is too similar to the old “gender industry”, where kids as young as five years old would claim they were “born in the wrong body”, and gender doctors would give them drugs and perform surgeries so these kids could “live their authentic life”. With no biological basis for such claims and no evidence of improved mental health, the gender industry fell apart under a wave of lawsuits followed by criminal trials where hundreds of doctors were charged with gross negligence, making death threats against children, and advocating suicide, though many doctors escaped jail-time claiming they were just following AMA-approved “standards of care”.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #dunning-kruger #conspiracy pittparents.com

Rise of the Trans Medical Taliban

When my son came to me saying he felt he was trans, my first inclination, being a scientist, was to dive into the research. I wanted to understand, from a medical and scientific perspective, what was going on with my son. I figured the science was settled, there were evidence-based studies that I could reference. […] As his dad, I was determined to accomplish this, for him and for our family.

It didn’t take long for me to discover, however, that this was simply not going to be possible. I’m now convinced that trans is not based on science. It’s fundamentalist religious ideology disguised as science. And not only that, because the entire field is being represented as science when it is, in fact, a belief system, information about extremely harmful side effects is being suppressed, and research efforts are completely subverted, because the ultimate goal is to support the ideology at all costs.

[…]

From my own experience with my son, it’s clear to me that these children DO feel deeply that they have issues with their body. That is not in question. I know my young teen son feels deeply that he is a woman, or at least that’s what he tells me. I also know that there are likely other underpinning reasons why he feels this way other than that he is literally a woman trapped in a male body. And, I think he is aware that he is not actually a woman, a situation which causes inherent cognitive dissonance. But through today’s rigid ideological lens, that is the only possibility offered to him from the gurus online and, similarly, there is only one possible treatment - trans medicine. But, actually, the science says that one size cannot fit all. At a time when cancer care is based on genetically modifying individual DNA, transgender medicine is still in medieval age of one size fits all - Puberty Blockers, Cross Sex Hormones, and Surgery. Trans is the medical version of the Taliban.

Mom22 #conspiracy #crackpot #quack #transphobia pittparents.com

It’s really beyond coincidence that our stories are all so similar from how & when to the words used. It’s not coincidence. Sometimes I tell myself I must be absolutely insane to be such a conspiracy theorist. At this point I am not beyond thinking the pandemic was just a cover up to get at our kids. The whole thing was structured to either kill us old folks or destroy as many of us thru stress & sterilize our kids.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #pratt pittparents.com

Today’s trans-insanity is perfectly predicted by Andersen in the 1800’s […]

Today we are living in Andersen’s world where the deluded emperor is played out through our precious children and young men and women who are fragile enough to be swindled by the fable that they can actually change their sex. There are many swindlers in this story. They include:

- New online ‘friends’ who, either sadly uncomfortable in their own skin or perverted in sexual desires and salacious in intent, encourage our teens to change perfectly healthy and whole bodies. […]
- Activist teachers with the hubris to think they know better than a loving family […] never letting parents know the distress they see in school but instead helping our children gain access to spaces to see how angry they can make the school board. […]
- Professors who ‘taught’ transgender falseness in their classrooms - encouraging, facilitating, salaciously engaging with fragile students to pursue their own predilection for weirdness claiming it is for the sake of ‘academic research’ or, even worse, ‘science.’ […]
- Politicians who know the transgender world is a made up fable but continue to vote in its favor because, after all, that is what the party says to do. They lie not only to their constituents but also to themselves in thinking that supporting the destruction of families and the permanent damage and possible early death of fragile young people is justified. […]
- LGBTQIA advocates looking to add others to their ranks possibly because they are perverts, possibly because they are not mentally stable themselves, or possibly because they like the power of leading a growing organization. […]

[… surgeons, therapists, affirming family, and WPATH …]

For whatever reason […] there are those of us who have never been entranced by the trans-spell. If this describes you in whatever role you play in this fable, then I believe you, me and the rest of us disagreeable folks are obligated to stand out from the crowd and speak the truth. […]

Adri Mans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

Transgenderism is demonic because comes from the rebel angels who hate God and everything He creates including us. They want our destruction that is why we have all this culture of death, euthanasia, abortion, sterilization, castration, etc. Transgenderism is not an isolate thing is part of a bigger problem, a spiritual problem, humans had forgot how to fight back because they dismissed the belief in Satan as a "thing of the past and of primitive and superstitious people" as we are all now so sophisticated and civilized and better??? Look around!

Are we better or we are asleep that we cannot recognize any longer bad from good?? We allow experimentation on children with drugs and surgeries!! Satanism is a legal religion in America!!! You have covenants of witches all over and through entertainment the dissemination of spells and demonic practices are everywhere!! We have a plague of paganism, human sacrifices to Baal!

PITTParents #ableist #conspiracy #transphobia pittparents.com

It all started back in 2023. Discord. Porn. That “markymoo” creep whispering filth into your ears for hours, grooming you with “You’re special, different—let me show you your true self,” preying on the loneliness you experienced from head trauma and bullying, filling your heart with confusion and false promises of belonging. They target vulnerable kids like you: isolated by social anxiety, fear of peers, lack of skills and bursts of rage. Online cults lure with, “Deadnaming is violence,” evoking tears of relief while sowing hatred. Dr. Sager, a psychiatrist from a local mental health clinic, kicked me out, left you alone in that cold room, and started the deep brainwashing: “You’ve always been a boy; your parents just suppressed it,” holding your hand, whispering “I see the real you,” making you feel “seen” for the first time, while ignoring your ADHD and OCD, turning your pain into their agenda, leaving you sobbing in “euphoria” but more broken inside.

They groom teens systematically. They start with online pushing “gender euphoria” via porn, anime and TikTok, labelling family as transphobic, making you cry over “lost years.” Therapists only affirm, they don’t ask questions, they hug you through “breakthroughs” that shatter your soul. Schools hide name changes, report on non-affirming parents, whispering “we’re your safe space.” Child Protective Services intervene, pairing children with affirming fosters who coach them to report on their “unsafe” home. Institutions rewrite history, “Your trauma is from cis-prison,” evoking guilt and floods of manipulated emotion. They evoke guilt, “Staying with parents betrays trans community.” They provide no-contact scripts, “Block them; they’re oppressors,” leaving you isolated, heartbroken, but convinced it’s “freedom.”

You parroted their mantras like a broken record, eyes filled with tears they called “joy.”
“I don’t feel safe at home.”
“Deadnaming is violence.”
“If they make me go back, I’ll end it.”

I heard you say those lines to the minor’s attorney, voice trembling, like someone was holding a script in front of you—your sobs echoing their control.

Bonnie, James Loewen #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

(Bonnie)
Our son was in his dorm room for 2 years during the lockdowns, learning and tutoring from there. He's now non binary, wearing feminine clothes, nail polish and styling his hair. I talk to him and he sounds like a 13 year old girl. He's into candles, pink stuff and hugs a squishmellow toy. His favorite movies are kids' ones like Zootopia etc. He's regressed when he was supposed to become a young adult. As a child he was more fearful of things than other boys, btw.

He feels like this is the identity he was meant to have but I'm seeing it as a psychological mechanism to deal with lockdowns, uncertainty, fear of long covid etc. Instead of helping my fearful son, doctors have given him hormones to grow breasts.

This trans identity is a coping strategy for many.

(James Loewen)
Deep research will show there is no "long covid" or regular "covid" just an orchestrated fear campaign to manipulate and control the masses. Research into this fake pandemic reveals a great many other orchestrated events have been presented to us through governments and media to frighten and manipulate the people. John Hamer's book, "The Falsification of History" is a great resource. There are many others.

Indeed, trans identity is a coping mechanism, often adopted as a response to various forms of trauma.

Your statement, "as a child he was more fearful of things than other boys" resounds with me. Sensitive boys often have difficulty visualizing themselves as adult men. They need kind and gentle men as role models to realize they don't have to emulate the men most often presented in the corrupt media. If your son can hear the sobering and heartbreaking stories of adult male detransitioners, Forrest Smith, Richie Herron, Shapeshifter, Daniel Black, Airiel Salvatore, and many more, perhaps it will give him pause for thought, and recognize and appreciate his perfect body.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #conspiracy pittparents.com

In March 2020, we were told school closures would last 15 days in order to slow the spread of COVID. Like most parents, we went along willingly. We believed we were protecting our children and we trusted that the disruption would be brief.

What none of us could have foreseen was how those “15 days” would stretch into years or how removing children from school, friendships, routines, and embodied daily life would quietly and profoundly affect their mental health and sense of selves.

[... ad for some documentary ...]

Before lockdowns, school gave my child more than academics. It provided structure, peer interaction, adult guidance, and a steady connection to everyday physical reality. When all of that vanished virtually overnight, my daughter, who was already anxious, neurodivergent, and often dysregulated, retreated deeply into the online world. Screens replaced classmates. Online communities replaced real friendships. Conversations about identity replaced ordinary, grounding experiences.

Lockdowns removed many protective factors all at once: school, extracurriculars, peer relationships, and exposure to a range of perspectives. For many children, distress that might once have been buffered by routine and social contact instead intensified in isolation. Online spaces offered certainty and belonging at a time when everything else felt unstable.

For my child, that certainty came in the form of gender identity narratives. Without regular access to real-world anchors, her distress deepened, and her focus on her body became consuming. What might have been a period of exploration instead became something more rigid and difficult to unwind.

[... they forced their child to hide their gender identity ...]

The pandemic is often discussed in broad, public health terms, but the consequences played out in individual homes and in our children’s inner lives.

Gina Smalley #transphobia #wingnut pittparents.com

["Trans-ideology became a hot topic during the election. Some say it swung the election to Trump."]

Yes, it does seem to be heading in the right direction thanks to the Trump administration! I am hopeful this ideology will soon come to an end. I would like to know who was funding this madness surrounding the Biden administration. The Biden admin was filled with true evil. I honestly cannot make sense of how something like this could be basically promoted from our government. Unfortunately, my 22 year old is still obsessed with this and I don’t have much recourse in stopping him from moving forward with his obsession since he is an adult. We will be cutting back on financial support ad much as we can if he moves forward.

Brenda Childs #ableist #conspiracy pittparents.com

I think the whole autism thing was a plan all along. They knew exactly how to create autism and they could create a whole lot of vulnerable people that they could draw into the cult. I say they not really knowing exactly who "they" are, but I do believe that whoever they are, they will soon be gone because as my son said in the lyrics he created in his friend's studio he called "Burn in Hell Jezebel", the anger has boiled to the top. I'm trying to make this video go viral, because that name of Jezebel has come up frequently over the past few years. I don't pretend to understand it all but we have been through hell at my house as have most people here, and I have to believe that the end to this is near!

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

I have a 22-year-old son, high functioning on the spectrum. He’s always been quirky and socially awkward but also a kind, loving and sweet boy. He attended Catholic schools through high school, then attended community college for two years. He also worked throughout his time high school and community college. In high school he came out as gay which we fully accepted. We decided to let him go to university to finish his last two years of college.

Unfortunately, this is when the downfall started. He found a group of LBGTQ furries, found his so-called friends and now has told us he’s transgender. We found out he has been taking black market HRT for the past four months. We were able to get this away from him but who knows what was actually in the meds he was using. They were coming from other countries. He basically had a psychotic episode, which was horrific. He ended up in a high-level psychiatric hospital for a week, then we sent him to a recovery facility which was supposed to be for five weeks. They did help him work through some emotional distress; however, they were affirming of his gender identity. After three weeks at this facility, we pulled him out as it seemed the facility was blaming us, his parents, for his mental health issues.

[...]

I believe the indoctrination into trans-ideology starts online with the so-called innocent gaming and YouTube, all infiltrated with manipulative evil. We are currently $75,000 into treatment and there’s been no change in his trans-identitfication.

I don’t know how much more my husband and I can take of this emotionally. The devastation and depression have gripped us. The fact that our son is 22 years also complicates matter as he is legally an adult.

Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #enbyphobia pittparents.com

Throughout the decades, every generation has gone through its own movement, its own trend that defined its time. […] These were phases, styles, ways of expressing personality. None of them denied reality or who a person truly was. They were expressions, not alternate identities.

But something changed in recent years, especially after the pandemic. A completely different kind of “trend” appeared. It stopped being about music, style, or behavior. It became about escaping inner pain by creating an identity totally disconnected from reality. People began believing they could be anything except what they were born as — animals, undefined identities, an endless list of genders — all as a way to hide emotional wounds, loneliness, and personal struggles.

The saddest part is that many enter these movements convinced that this escape will bring relief. But it doesn’t. In fact, it creates bigger wounds. People altering their bodies irreversibly, believing that would solve their problems, only to discover nothing inside was healed. Families breaking apart, relationships collapsing, people becoming isolated and lost. Many end up dealing with deep depression, hopelessness, and even suicidal thoughts when they realize that changing the outside does not fix the emptiness inside.

[…]

One day, I hope society will look back and understand that so much of what we see today is not identity, but untreated emotional pain. And instead of helping people face their real struggles with honesty, support, and love, we encouraged them to run from themselves.

In the end, every human being is searching for belonging, purpose, and peace. None of that is found by rejecting one’s own identity. Real healing comes from truth, from courage, from facing our pain, and from the strength we find in God, family, and reality itself.

May that day come soon.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

The holidays are NOT the most wonderful time of the year for many of us PITT families. The Christmas hymn O Come All Ye Faithful beacons us to come joyful and triumphant. However, for parents, grandparents and siblings of trans-identified family members, there is no joy to be found and no triumph to be felt.

[...]

Instead of joy and peace, we experience sorrow and anxiety. We find ourselves exhausted, disappointed and with no energy or desire to shop, cook or celebrate the holidays. Shopping for the child who’s declared that he/she is not our son/daughter feels as if the floor of the mall has become lava. We tip-toe around, trying not to get burned. We look for neutral items which makes finding a present an impersonal and painful task. Then, what do we write on the name tag? We either lie to ourselves to make them happy or write the truth and create and explosion of anger. So, we settle for “To: My dearest second child”. We dread not seeing the estranged or distant child and we dread seeing them and the potential scenes that will take place if anyone “deadnames” him/her. We anticipate the gray cloud that will settle over the table while everyone is trying to enjoy a holiday meal that will taste bitter to us.

Why celebrate when we will be painfully reminded that our families are broken and incomplete? How do we reconcile the bustle and hustle of the season with the emptiness that we feel, not only inside, but tangibly through the empty seats at the table? Even if a chair is not empty, there’s one that might as well be because the child or grandchild who sits there is as absent and removed as the one who doesn’t come home.

PITT Parents #transphobia pittparents.com

Whispers behind our backs.
A friend of a friend of a friend.
‘Did you know?
Did you know they won’t call their son their daughter?
Why not?
Because.
Because they’re transphobic.’

They know.
Those who have not read anything about this.
They know what’s going on and they know what we are.
We’re transphobic.
‘It’s like gay.
Only trans.
Same thing.’
They know.
‘Transphobic!’

But they can’t say it to us.
They say it behind our backs.
Better that way.
They want to be nice.
‘Defend themselves??
How could they possibly defend themselves?
There is nothing they can say anyway.
They’re transphobic.
Why would we have a conversation with them?
La la la.’

But we love our son!!
Wait....please...listen to us!
Did you know they are cutting the breasts off of 14 year old girls?
‘La la la.
They are not doing that!
We don’t believe you.
Anyway they just want to be their authentic selves.
Leave them alone!’

No!
Listen!
Please!

They think there is no reason except transphobia to not call our son our daughter.
Nobody wants to hear that you can’t actually be born in the wrong body.
‘La la la’.
Nobody wants to hear how devastating it is to have a beloved son enter into a cultish delusion where the end game is cutting off body parts.
‘La la la’.
Nobody wants to hear how deeply it hurts us to know that everyone is celebrating him...celebrating what? That he will pretend to be what he is not for the rest of his life?

Devastating to us.
Everyone else celebrates.
Yesterday we were nice people.
Today we’re transphobic.
Everyone is so sure of themselves.
They know.

Actually.
They have no idea.

Anonymous #ableist #conspiracy #dunning-kruger #transphobia pittparents.com

It’s really weird at my house. If an anthropologist were looking through the window and secretly observing my family, he would be very confused. Why does the father use a male name for the son while the mother uses a female name? And everyone in the family goes along with this, like it’s completely normal?

My gender-addled adult son has been trapped in the trans nightmare for about a year and a half now. He’s a textbook case of ROGD, an “on the spectrum” kid who thinks that his discomfort with himself and the rest of the world is because he’s born in the wrong body. What nonsense. Yet his mother and younger sister “support” him in his “journey”. I don’t. I am the father who loves him and wants what’s best for him, so I don’t affirm what he’s doing to himself. I stay close to him - he still lives at home - but I don’t go along with the new name, the new pronouns and language, any of it. Meanwhile he’s not working, not going to school, doesn’t get out much, and just seems to be stuck in the game of life.

… So in our household, my wife affirms, and I don’t. It’s a problem and it’s escalating. My wife winces every time I use my son’s birth name. “You’re hurting him.” she yells. “Why can’t you accept him the way he is?” I’m hurting him? I do accept him, as him, she doesn’t. No one can change their sex. My wife should know that. The last few months I’ve been watching the slow transformation of my once-handsome son into something else, I’m not sure what. He’s hurting himself in ways he probably doesn’t yet know. He’s getting sick on cross-sex hormones but won’t acknowledge that those hormones are the cause of his sickness. He occasionally sees the classic “disturbed, close female friend” (a one-time girlfriend who says she’s also trans), and she likes to give him manicures. Really? Does he realize she’s treating him like a damn dress-up doll? Probably not.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #psycho pittparents.com

I lost my daughter to a cult.
And I may never get her back.
I have a son…don’t want one more—
so many issues to unpack.

My heart still sinks each moment when
she slides back into to choosing lies.
Oh, guide our daughter home again,
free from the pain of her disguise.

Renew her mind. Restore her soul.
Let her drink in your loving grace.
One day I’ll find my girl again,
who doesn’t hate her form and face.

We’ll take high tea in skirts and heels.
We’ll go and get our nails done.
We’ll shop and share our deepest dreams,
just like we did when she was young.

So, damn the broken, wicked ones
who lead our kids astray like sheep.
And may the millstones ‘round their necks
drag them down in the deepest seas.

distressed parent #transphobia pittparents.com

I did try to educate my son about the trans insanity and found who I thought was a sane therapist when my son flirted with the trans nonsense during high school. But maybe I should have sat on the couch more next to my son while he played video games. Maybe I should have forbid him playing Dungeons and Dragons with a bunch of girls -- but I didn't want him lonely. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But my husband and I did exert substantial effort to help our confused son, and we thought he was in remission when he was thriving in high school. And then he fell deep into the trans abyss freshman year at an esteemed college. And now he is a collapsed person at 23 -- mentally and physically deteriorated.

When we were in the thick of it, PITT had not started. Maybe if it had, I would have known how to try harder. I need to find a way to now drown in regret or sadness. Most days I'm doing okay now -- as one of my friends said, you can only sustain a crisis so long. But the ache is still there because the hope is less. Regret is a stubborn residue of this relentless sad horror in my culture that feeds children to a monster.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

Last Christmas some of the family were grievously absent. The differences took center stage and obscured the love that had always held us together. Silence dominated where laughter had always resounded. Rejection replaced open arms and acceptance. In my pain, I wonder what happened.

Oh, I know what instigated the avalanche. It wasn’t my grandson’s announcement that he was transgender, though some might think so. He didn’t cause this division. It was the choice of his parents to require affirmation of his revelation. It wasn’t enough to love him and nurture his growth in self-discovery. It wasn’t enough for his mother or her sisters. It wasn’t enough to give him time and encouragement to grow out of his awkward feelings that confuse him and make him so uncomfortable. No, it wasn’t his choice. It was his mother’s, together with his aunts. It was their grown-up, mature decisions to intercept and discard every communication, even every expression of love and acceptance, that didn’t conform to their perception of what it should be.

I can’t wrap my head around it. Since when is a gift given to say, “I love you! You’re important to me! I miss you!” an offensive? How can that be labeled hateful?

Here we are with another lonely Christmas looming ahead. My heart is breaking for the absence of them all! I’m extremely thankful for the compassionate understanding that my sons and their families give me. It’s not that their support isn’t greatly appreciated. Oh, it’s appreciated more than words can express. But it doesn’t remove the sting of their sisters’ rejection. Only my daughters can remove this pain. Only God can heal it.

Jennifer Bond Baker #transphobia pittparents.com

[comment under a transphobic detranser’s screed]
Just know that parents like me who are still cut off from an adult child (who may have irreparable harm) do not see it your way. We are very thankful for you, happy for you, for your family… that at least someone escaped unharmed. Just the fact that you walked away, for any reason, is its own testimony. And it gives us hope.

Thank you for your essay. God bless you.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

As I wrote in the previous email, my idea was to give my son a working vocabulary that could be used to describe gender ideology. I wanted him to first learn this vocabulary in other contexts, for example, while learning about cults or totalitarian regimes. I hoped that he would be able to make these connections himself, and eventually he did make them.

If you end up on the subject of the Holocaust, and even if not, the movie JoJo Rabbit is one of the best movies you can watch with a trans-identifying child. We watched it several times. My kids love it. It can be easily translated into being “about trans”, and I think it does affect their subconscious. JoJo is a little boy who wants to belong and he is a Nazi; his imaginary friend is Hitler himself… The ideology cripples him, literally, and yet he continues to believe, because it offers such an escape from the reality of war. All the while, his mother is in the Resistance Movement. “You are not a Nazi, JoJo, you are a little boy who likes to wear a uniform and wants to belong,” his mother says. What a perfect line!

PITT parents #dunning-kruger #pratt #transphobia pittparents.com

(post claims they’ve discovered a new intervention that cures a long list of symptoms gender dysphoria)

So, what is this Intervention?

So, what is this new intervention that is so good at alleviating Gender Dysphoria? It is Puberty! Yes puberty. As it is a bit of a turbulent time it can of course, be associated with some increased risks of mental health concerns as a person develops, however it also presents opportunities for positive development and maturing. Understanding and supporting adolescents through this period can help maximize the potential mental health benefits of puberty. Going through puberty can lead to the development of deeper peer relationships, development of the brain regions involved in understanding others’ perspectives (social cognition), which helps adolescents build stronger peer connections and social support networks and is strongly linked to better mental health and resilience. It is also related to the exploration of personal identity and self-awareness, development of greater emotional awareness and coping strategies, influences brain development and function and synaptic pruning, enables emotional resilience and social competence, develops the pre-frontal cortex which aids problem solving. It leads to an increase in production of white matter brain volume, improves communication and connectivity between brain regions and more efficient cognitive processing and emotional regulation. It leads to an increase in emotional intensity by stimulating the limbic system and risk-taking behaviours necessary to help develop adult roles. It also develops the corpus callosum which supports improved coordination between analytical and creative thinking. Therefor not experiencng puberty or delaying puberty leads to stunted or delayed general development and the likelihood of prolonged Gender Dysphoria.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

A group of mothers are suffering. I am one of them.

My son is a sweet boy, a caring, gentle and sensitive boy. But everything changed since the day he turned into a different person who I do not recognize. His behaviour changed a couple of months before that day. I noticed significant and out of character behavioural changes from him. He limited his food intake and slept a lot during day time. He used a commanding tone when speaking to me. He tried to avoid conversation with the family.

I felt something wrong and started digging and digging. Then I found the cross-sex hormones in his room. It was a big shock. I had never noticed him having any issues or distress related to gender. When my husband and I tried to talk to him and tried to find out what was going on, he gave us the text book type of answer such as “This is what I want.” “I feel good.”, etc. When we asked why he wants to trans to a woman, his answer was so superficial. He talked about dressing in women’s clothes and wearing makeup. When we finally found a clinician who was willing to help him, our son left home and cut off contact with us.

That day was the darkest day in my life. Since then I lived in the hell.

Sonia Banovac #transphobia pittparents.com

Yes I want the vultures to pay for their crimes to humanity For the harm that is being done to my child For the lie that he can be a woman, for the lie that depression stops with blockers and boobs and after that with surgeries I want the vultures to pay for mutilating children, teenagers, young adults. I want the vultures to pay for destroying families, mutilating beautiful perfect bodies without any remorse, without thinking that what they are doing could do more harm than good all because of money. I want the vultures to cry all the tears that I have cried for my child, every day. I want the vultures to feel the pain I feel to see my child suffering, believing a lie and telling me to leave him alone because I am ignorant and stupid. I want the vultures to pay for steeling my child 's love and respect for his parents.

Broken Hearted Mom #transphobia #ableist pittparents.com

My son. Brilliant. Not autistic. Same online exposure. He suddenly decided at 19. He's 27 now. I describe him as my bosomed son because he is on an artificial amount of estrogen that was never meant for his body. A host of "medical personnel" are participating in this abuse, anti-hypocratic oath. Even the so-called therapist is not providing therapy, but destructive encouragement. We've spoken all the logic, but this contagion seems to, at least temporarily and just long enough, block one's ability to think with reason and logic. The only thing I know to do now is remain in the wings for the day it all crashes down.

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia pittparents.com

You see us gathering in our ranks now - weary and wounded but still ready, willing, and able to head directly into battle. See us entering the field:

Grandmas and grandpas whose opinions were disregarded as ‘old fashioned’ and ‘out of touch’ as they attempted again and again to reach out in loving kindness to their precious grandchildren.

Childhood friends who watched in horror as their old friend devolved into someone they couldn’t recognize - only interested in hanging out with other poor deluded souls - leaving good friends in the dust.

Family doctors - the few standing by their oath and refusing to refer a patient they have known since birth - and then watching that young patient pursue physical harm through the oxymoron known as ’affirming care.’

Aunties and Uncles, who, while writing out a birthday card to what seems like an empty hole - never getting a ‘thank you’ or even a ‘hello’ text in return - wondering how to address the card - finally deciding to throw it out and just put cash in an envelope instead.

Siblings who watched their parents dissolve into a messy ball of insecurity as this one sibling pulled down every tradition, every family vacation, every high school prom, every holiday, every joyous memory - as this one sibling sucked all of the air out of the loving family leaving an empty shell of people trying to hold it together in the wake of ‘wokeness.’

SaltSweet #transphobia pittparents.com

Having a son or daughter who is a “transformer,” no matter what age they do it, is like witnessing a kind of suicide. We feel we’ve lost our 30 year old son to suicide. He has killed the man we thought he was and has removed himself from our lives so that we do not see him anymore. Just as if he had died. It brings a kind of sadness that accompanies death and yet there is that glimmer of hope that he will come back to us, “clothed and in his right mind.”

Parents With Inconvenient Truths about Trans #transphobia #fundie pittparents.com

While mainstream culture insists this is about “identity” and “acceptance,” the truth emerging online is far darker.

On sites like Reddit, among trans communities themselves, countless posts now echo despair and confusion:

“The government is making it harder.”
“No one supports us anymore.”
“We feel left behind.”

These are not words of empowerment. They are cries of isolation. But isolation from whom, and why?

[...]

True compassion is not about agreeing with every feeling. It is about loving enough to tell the truth. Real love does not affirm confusion. It guides with grace, offering a hand toward reality, not fantasy. The solution is not in more surgeries or hormones, but in restoring the heart, accepting the body, and finding purpose in the Creator, who made us male and female with intention, wisdom, and love.