Lets start with “foids” and “femoids” and “holes”.
These imaginary boogiemen of your fever dreams are phantoms you create.
Leave them behind.
Your 11 year old GIRL going on about a 16 year old boyfriend, was either lying or is being groomed by a pedophile. This seems to be where you closed off all conversations forever.
There are topics beyond guns, cars, and video games… which by the way, are no more male than gardening, wildlife photography, or the selection of cookies at the local cafe.
You are either deliberately choosing to only associate with the most shallow and vapid of women, or you are consuming vast amounts of porn. Either way, your understanding of women is being distorted.
Make a habit of saying “hello” to the women at the grocery checkout… And wishing them a good day. Become the man who makes them smile for just a moment. It’s easy to do.
Make a mental note of their faces. Remember which face is which.
If you have not been to one in a long time , make a point of saying that you have missed her.
If one is pregnant, ask how far along.
If one regularly wears a broach or pin of a pawprint in a heart, ask if they have a dog.