( RappaccinisDaughter )
Wow. This post answered one of my main questions: "If transitioning is terrible for your health, mentally and physically, why don't more people detransition/why are so many trans people so happy?"
They're addicts. Good God. It makes so much sense. They're getting frequent hits of the attention and validation they crave, and if it stops, they'll feel even worse than before.
“Frequent hits of the attention and validation” from whom, exactly?
Of the two people I live with, one insists on using my birthname and male gendered language for me at all times.
The other has openly told me that she hopes that I detransition.
Or maybe my brothers and friends, who do address me as a woman? Well, they give me just as much attention as before I came out to them, and as for validation… well, it might surprise you to know that didn’t ask any of my friends to address me a certain way. They asked me, once they found out that I’m trans. And then they began to address me by my new name and using feminine gendered language because they wanted to. Not because I forced them or nagged them.
If there’s validation there, it’s simply the validation of knowing that my friends and brothers care enough to do that on their own.
But… you think that causes some sort of dopamine hit? Hell no.
You see it as an addiction because you can’t explain it otherwise. And you can’t explain it otherwise because your biosex ideology makes alternative explanations downright unthinkable. You have a one-rack mind that can only see us a certain way and is trained to ignore anything outside those bounds that might crack the gender-critical dogma.
Yesterday I was reading a TIM saying he couldn't trust a relationship with a bisexual woman, and found the idea of a relationship with a lesbian more "validating". And I didn't get it. You're getting to have sex with a woman who's going along with your trans delusion, what do you care if she likes both sexes?
But it makes sense now. It's not about fulfilling his sexual desire for women nearly as much as it is fulfilling his addiction to "being" a woman. That's what he really craves. And he can't get it if he knows on the back of his mind his girlfriend also likes men.
Oh, it’s rather simple actually. This trans woman is insecure.
To her, being with a lesbian feels more validating than being with a bisexual woman because with a lesbian, she can be sure that the girlfriend sees this trans woman as a woman — after all, she only dates women, right?
But with a bisexual woman, there is no such certainty. She might see the trans woman as a woman, or she might not. After all, she dates both women and men, so how can you be sure which aspect she sees in you and is attracted to?
And that’s the whole mystery. But of course, you didn’t get it, and then you went with the worst possible interpretations. Because as a TERF, that’s all you know and all you’re capable of.
You're getting to have sex with a woman who's going along with your trans delusion, what do you care if she likes both sexes?
So close to the truth, yet so far.
Yes, you are right in a sense — it shouldn’t matter whether the other woman likes both sexes — or genders.
And I think it would do the trans woman in question good to work on her self-confidence, which may lead her to realize that it doesn’t really matter whether her girlfriend is lesbian or bi.
But the way you put it?
What, you think we should just accept the pity of whoever is willing to ‘accept’ us? That “beggars can’t be choosers”?
But it makes sense now. It's not about fulfilling his sexual desire for women nearly as much as it is fulfilling his addiction to "being" a woman. That's what he really craves. And he can't get it if he knows on the back of his mind his girlfriend also likes men.
You think you know, that you understand us… even though you don’t have a goddamn clue. But, as always, you assume — and then assert that those assumptions are the objective truth.
You fill in the deep, deep holes of your ignorance with your own fantasies and conjecture based on little or nothing but the precepts of your ideology and the garbage it feeds into your increasingly diseased mind.
As is the norm for your “gender-critical” kind.